I have gotten requests from guys to meet me. Why is it most of them prefer to meet at their home instead of a public place first? Is it a good idea or not? I understand most people are on a tight budget and understand guys not wanting women looking to meet a guy just for a free dinner.
online dating and meeting for the first time
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Alarm bells!
da_illest101
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I guess they are more comfortable home, I know that I would be.
The problem with that is that you have no idea if the guy is a creep or not.
I would never invite a girl to my house at first, even though that's what I would prefer, I can see how weird and scary that could be for a girl, hell even for a guy.
Tell him public place or nothing, if he is broke just make sure you both eat before going
The problem with that is that you have no idea if the guy is a creep or not.
I would never invite a girl to my house at first, even though that's what I would prefer, I can see how weird and scary that could be for a girl, hell even for a guy.
Tell him public place or nothing, if he is broke just make sure you both eat before going
Rembrandt Broam
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Not!
I would stay away from any guy who isn't willing to meet you in a public place. I can't think of a single good reason why they wouldn't want to meet you somewhere public, but I can think of quite a few bad ones.
WhereisMonika
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ありがとう;585885 said:
NO ITS A BLUE FLAG
, Poor guy, if he's been lonely for a while now he will be so sad its so quick. At least have the coffee and then go to ur place or his.::
Pookah
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NO ITS A BLUE FLAG
You really think it is wise for a woman to go to the house of a complete stranger? She is the one with SA, and would rather go out, highly unlikely that they also have it.
sullyS25
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Even if are anxious like her this is a red flag in my opinion. If she is willing to go to a coffee shop and has SA then he should be willing to do it as well....This going to a strangers house because they might be lonely and sad is ridiculous. No one should put themselves in a situation where they could possible be unsafe because they THINK the person they are meeting is lonely and sad...that is the most ridiculous logic I have ever heard
WhereisMonika
Banned
So? She could have a mild case and he could have a severe case. There are varying degrees of SA, just like most other disorders. Plus all of the others possible cases but it's irrelevant anyway. It's a 50/50 type deal, either he is a guy who has SA and would rather not go out around people with her or he is a serial killer or rapist and he will have his way with her. Personally if i was in her place i would carry a gun and/or knife and make him squeal in the end.
Personally if i was in her place i would carry a gun and/or knife and make him squeal in the end.
Did you know this is a support forum? The OP wants some advice, not trolling. I've pulled you up many times for that, lets make this the last time eh?
Back on topic.
WhereisMonika
Banned
Trolling? Maybe just my personality, ok fine this will the last time i let my personality come out in full force.
Aletheia
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It's a terrible dangerous idea.
If he doesn't have much money, meet him for a coffee, or simply for a walk.
LazyHermitCrab
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Don't go to their house. I did meet someone at a military base when I used to do online dating and he wanted to have you know what right away. I thought he was going to rape me or something :/ I even asked for water and he said not until we did it and was really rude. I told him I was a virgin and that I wanted wait until the second time we met (lie) and he said fine. Even though we didn't do it I was afraid I had an std but luckily didn't :s