one friend

monkeyisland90

monkeyisland90

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Embarassed to say that i have like one friend who i'm comfortable with.. and it sucks because I knew him at a early age so feel that it wasn't earned or anything.... i connected with him in the past and seems to be the same as now... he doesn't have any social anxiety but does have like other issues...

I also feel that any connection I have with other people always seem to have some extreme issue or just very needy... and kind of embarassing.... I guess people that you associate well with is like seeing yourself in the mirror (doesn't have to be same issues... but certain traits etc..)
 
1188198343

1188198343

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I also have only one friend (He does not seem to have any issues by the way). I never made a lot of friends during my life. I dont think thats a big problem now (it was earlier), maybe its not even my fault at all. I always liked being alone.

"I guess people that you associate well with is like seeing yourself in the mirror"

I think to an extent thats true. Friends often share interests, opinions etc.. but it doesent mean they have to have the same "facade".
 
Havocan

Havocan

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I've got more than one close friend, but what worries me is that I'm slipping away from at least two of them. I feel there is a diverging pattern appearing since we always choose different directions and start to perceive the world differently^^. In the end I think I'll be stuck with maybe one or max two close friends.

Establishing new close friendships at this time of life is almost impossible. Got to be a female, since I feel they're more easy and more willing to understand me than males in general.
 
Hoth

Hoth

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monkeyisland90 said:
it sucks because I knew him at a early age so feel that it wasn't earned or anything
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You've earned it by maintaining it. Think about how few people still have the friends they had when they were little. It's impressive that you haven't drifted apart over the years.

Personally I made all my friends at various online forums. Not that I'm an e-socialite, but one a year adds up after a while.

Riiya said:
Hey, at least you have one more friend than I do. :?
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I'd be your friend if you wanted. Hard to imagine people not liking you.
 
HldOn2YurBike

HldOn2YurBike

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I to only have one friend I feel I can talk to. She has no idea about my social anxiety and she herself has nothing wrong. The only reason we connected was because no one really liked her so I decided to give her a chance. I am so happy I did because I have never had a friend like her before.

But like others said, you did earn it by making it last this long.
 
Sad-Kitten

Sad-Kitten

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Same here, i have no friends. I'm currently trying to figure out how to find/ make some outside of the internet, a prospect that terrifies me 8O
 
Ubersonic

Ubersonic

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I have about 7 decent friends, but it's strange. 1 on 1 is really uncomfortable and too awkward. I never hang out unless I know somebody else will show up, so I have another person to fill the awkward silences.
 
Moonie

Moonie

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I have had a couple neighborhood friends growing up, but they moved or we drifted apart. I was pretty much friendless from 1999 - 2004.

It wasn't until a mixture of the internet, booze, and working out -- did I meet some guys (mostly talked to them online first, but met a couple at the dorm/bar.) So, now my only friends consist of them. There are about 3 that I talk to. A couple of them were my ex BFs.

I still don't have any girlfriends. And again, I haven't had one since '99. The closest I had was a nice roommate in one of my yrs of college. But, I wouldn't say we were real friends.. I guess.
 
Havocan

Havocan

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Anyone else males feel the need to have female friends rather than male ones? I just experience girls as much more easy to talk to about things like this than males^^.
 
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