Officially hates family gatherings

[missjesss]

I don't know about anyone else on here but I hate family gatherings and all I wanted to do was escape my Xmas lunch I didn't have fun at all, I hate pointless conversations and being around family feeling so drained right now

 

[replica]

I feel quite crappy too but I didn't have any family gatherings, felt like no one cares. But I would probably feel exactly like you if we had to do something together. Theres no pleasing me.

 

[missjesss]

Are we going to arrange a gathering ? I think it would be great for us to meet and share our struggles mayb even practice situations etc

 

[narromind]

The family

 

[Minty]

Gatherings suck. But, honestly, they would suck even without the SA. Most of my family members are boooooooooooooooring and judgmental. "How come you don't have a job? You still live at home? Thought about getting a boyfriend?"

Just...no. They're like the antithesis to my own parents so I don't know how to react to them.

 

[Richey]

Well this all depends on your situation, my relatives tend to spend their time complaining and judging and that is a toxic atmosphere to be spending time around for any more then an hour or so. The older generation tend to be rigid and cynical as they express their opinions in their own narrow minded worlds, and i dont mean that to be offensive but it's just what i notice. I find alot of the older generation aka (uncles, aunties, parents, grand parents) often arn't very open minded and like to feed off of gossip and negativity, grumpiness etc...and sure they do try and make some fun as well.

I think If I spent christmas around younger people my age then at least it would be more relaxed and fun that way.

Maybe its just people who complain and judge, gossip that really irk me at family gatherings, and if they look at me while in the midst of a gossipy speal i tend to look away without acknowledging them because i really don't want to be agreeing or expressing an opinion on something i have no grounds of knowledge about, if they look at me for approval then i'll avoid joining in on their prejudices because i tend to be more open minded and understanding about people and their issues where as i find alot of people are not open minded or sympathetic and like to step on people behind their backs through gossip. no thanks, i just want to sit there and talk about something fun and relaxing where a conversation can really flow through just talking about non-people specific related topics like music, movies, work, etc ...

 

[narromind]

Well this all depends on your situation, my relatives tend to spend their time complaining and judging and that is a toxic atmosphere to be spending time around for any more then an hour or so. The older generation tend to be rigid and cynical as they express their opinions in their own narrow minded worlds, and i dont mean that to be offensive but it's just what i notice. I find alot of the older generation aka (uncles, aunties, parents, grand parents) often arn't very open minded and like to feed off of gossip and negativity, grumpiness etc...and sure they do try and make some fun as well.

I think If I spent christmas around younger people my age then at least it would be more relaxed and fun that way.

Maybe its just people who complain and judge, gossip that really irk me at family gatherings, and if they look at me while in the midst of a gossipy speal i tend to look away without acknowledging them because i really don't want to be agreeing or expressing an opinion on something i have no grounds of knowledge about, if they look at me for approval then i'll avoid joining in on their prejudices because i tend to be more open minded and understanding about people and their issues where as i find alot of people are not open minded or sympathetic and like to step on people behind their backs through gossip. no thanks, i just want to sit there and talk about something fun and relaxing where a conversation can really flow through just talking about non-people specific related topics like music, movies, work, etc ...

Very interesting

 

[Ignace]

I avoid them for years already. I reaalllyyyy hate it. So much pressure to talk blabla ..

 

[DeMarco]

I know the feeling to much. Im having a WEEKEND FAMILY gathering..........for god sake. What bothers me is that my family knows something may be " wrong" but avoid the conversation. I'ts like the "big elephsant" in the room kinda situation. :S

 

[blackgatescross]

I know where you are coming from. I had to suffer through mine yesterday. Me and my brother don't talk and my 80 year old grandmother is trying to force us to. It is a game that I am not interested in playing . . ::

 

[BlueDays]

I don't know about anyone else on here but I hate family gatherings and all I wanted to do was escape my Xmas lunch I didn't have fun at all, I hate pointless conversations and being around family feeling so drained right now

I totally agree!
I just don't see the point of having a forced get together with relatives that make you miserable and angry.

 

[lunaticbinge]

I'm surrounded by family right now. A big awkward sandwich. It sucks but most exposure is good exposure.

 

[wariomona]

Had one of these for Christmas. Like you guys, my relatives all judge me, expect me to be doing more with life, etc. Although they do it in a "awww, so sad" kinda way. (They seem to be try to convert me to Christianity all the time too!). Luckily I have younger cousins so I managed to avoid most conversation simply by playing board games all day. ::

 

[craaazyflamingo]

Yeah, I don't like family gatherings either. They always make me so nervous because everyone always expects me to say something. They always ask me why I'm being so quiet.