Depression4life
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Hi I'm new here & I got an issue I've always wanted to discuss as it's been an issue for a looong time
First I'll introduce myself I suffer from Social Anxiety/Severe Depression/GAD. Add to that I'm introvert & really shy & socially ackward
So my issue is whenever I speak to people/strangers or anyone I don't seem to speak loud enough for them to hear/understand me, so they either ignore me or they ask me to speak louder or to repeat again it's frustrating
The thing is I think I speak loud enough on a normal tone but apparently other people think I don't speak loud enough.
The meds I take for my depression & anxiety make me feel chilled out/relaxed/calmer & easy going which makes me happy but for example when I speak to some stranger/girl at a bar & she doesn't hear me, I then have to talk way louder which then makes me uptight & less calmer/relaxed.
Sometimes I feel I can't speak loud enough for people to hear me & it sucks cause girls always say they like a confident man but I'm one of those guys who mumbles or speaks in a low tone voice so that makes it harder for me to talk to girls & makes me look like I'm unconfident & that I can't chat up girls
but it's due to my weak voice.
When I used to live alone in my apartment I used to put the music/tv loud & talk loud to practise speaking loud. Even in my car I used to put the music loud & speak loud to practice. The issue though is that my neighbours/my parents sometimes would hear "me speaking to myself" then they'd think I hear voices or that I'm crazy when really that wasn't true. So I stopped "talking loud" whilst at home even after explaining to them that the reason I was talking loud was not cause I was "crazy" & that I was hearing "voices" but because it was to practise speaking loud as I don't speak loud enough in social situations but they don't understand so :idontknow:
At drive thrus & other places it's hard cause most of the time they don't hear/understand me :sad:
So does anyone else have the same issue?? If so what did you do to help you overcome this problem??
I know it's long but thanks for reading
First I'll introduce myself I suffer from Social Anxiety/Severe Depression/GAD. Add to that I'm introvert & really shy & socially ackward
So my issue is whenever I speak to people/strangers or anyone I don't seem to speak loud enough for them to hear/understand me, so they either ignore me or they ask me to speak louder or to repeat again it's frustrating
The thing is I think I speak loud enough on a normal tone but apparently other people think I don't speak loud enough.
The meds I take for my depression & anxiety make me feel chilled out/relaxed/calmer & easy going which makes me happy but for example when I speak to some stranger/girl at a bar & she doesn't hear me, I then have to talk way louder which then makes me uptight & less calmer/relaxed.
Sometimes I feel I can't speak loud enough for people to hear me & it sucks cause girls always say they like a confident man but I'm one of those guys who mumbles or speaks in a low tone voice so that makes it harder for me to talk to girls & makes me look like I'm unconfident & that I can't chat up girls
but it's due to my weak voice.
When I used to live alone in my apartment I used to put the music/tv loud & talk loud to practise speaking loud. Even in my car I used to put the music loud & speak loud to practice. The issue though is that my neighbours/my parents sometimes would hear "me speaking to myself" then they'd think I hear voices or that I'm crazy when really that wasn't true. So I stopped "talking loud" whilst at home even after explaining to them that the reason I was talking loud was not cause I was "crazy" & that I was hearing "voices" but because it was to practise speaking loud as I don't speak loud enough in social situations but they don't understand so :idontknow:
At drive thrus & other places it's hard cause most of the time they don't hear/understand me :sad:
So does anyone else have the same issue?? If so what did you do to help you overcome this problem??
I know it's long but thanks for reading