nobody sit next to me in class

[Clown]

While I dont go to school almost for 4 years now,
I do remeber the always the first days of class
Everyone just instantly made there mate or friend.
Im not that ugly or weird looking guy,
some find me very attractive
I dont know what it is, mostly people
just hate me or don''t like me...
I always had and have tensed facial muscles
and my gad made my appereance look strained.
So one of biggest anxiety is how I look out of my eyes
my facial expressions
Some people say that I look elitist and that I look im better then everyone else...
I dont know.. does anyone else experience this ?

 

[guyonthecouch]

My shyness and quietness was often confused with snobbism and feelings of superority... but what happened was all the snobbs and stuck up people wanted to be my friends even thou i am nothing like that... the result was bad and shallow friendships that did not last past highschool...

 

[Feathers]

maybe you are just too goodlooking? some people can be intimidated by that, you know...

(I sat next to a classmate who was very attractive in one class, she was also on tv etc, I was always late so there was not much place anywhere else - but I was really surprised no one was sitting there before... I wouldn't dare sit next to her I guess on my own, but as it is, I was forced by circumstance...)

if you didn't smile or look encouraging, people maybe just thought you wanted to have peace?

a friend said too, that people thought she was 'snobbish' when she was just shy.. it can happen... I think you can work on it and improve body language etc if you want to...

 

[vj288]

This happens to me, I wouldn't call it a problem though. Last semester, I really didn't want people to sit next to me, and I think I probably gave off a "vibe" telling them I didn't. Posture, eye contact, stuff like that I think told them "Stay away from me." Discomfort can send this same vibe I think, it's hard to look inviting when you're all tensed up and uncomfortable. If you want to sit next to other people, there's always the simple solution of making the move rather then waiting for them to come to you. I mean if you pick a seat way away from everyone else, people sort of assume you don't want to be bothered I think.

 

[guyonthecouch]

maybe you are just too goodlooking? some people can be intimidated by that, you know...

(I sat next to a classmate who was very attractive in one class, she was also on tv etc, I was always late so there was not much place anywhere else - but I was really surprised no one was sitting there before... I wouldn't dare sit next to her I guess on my own, but as it is, I was forced by circumstance...)

if you didn't smile or look encouraging, people maybe just thought you wanted to have peace?

a friend said too, that people thought she was 'snobbish' when she was just shy.. it can happen... I think you can work on it and improve body language etc if you want to...

I kindda intimidate some people, so they wait for me to make the first move and then i don't cuz i'm too shy yyyaadda yyadda yyyadda can't really connect with people on a friendship level

 

[JustWannaLove]

While I dont go to school almost for 4 years now,
I do remeber the always the first days of class
Everyone just instantly made there mate or friend.
Im not that ugly or weird looking guy,
some find me very attractive
I dont know what it is, mostly people
just hate me or don''t like me...
I always had and have tensed facial muscles
and my gad made my appereance look strained.
So one of biggest anxiety is how I look out of my eyes
my facial expressions
Some people say that I look elitist and that I look im better then everyone else...
I dont know.. does anyone else experience this ?

hi, i know what you are talking about.
i have naturally frowning eyebrows and when i catch a glance of myself in the mirror when i freak out at the sight of my face because it's not what i see in my home mirror lol.
i find that when i smile i look better/less scary.
although, if you dont feel like smiling it can be kinda stressful/depressing.
but maybe if you smile more it will help. It might make you feel a little happy too, and make others curious (in a good way).
and say hello to your classmates (if you want to be friends with them) in a nice friendly manner.
sometimes people just judge on first appearences without fist knowing what you are like.
maybe saying hello to them will make them realise they judged wrong.
if you feel like you have more to offer than that, then don't be affraid to go out of your way to reveal something about yourself that proves that you are not the person they think you are.
i know it's easier said than done, but i hope it helps.
also, if they choose not to be your friends still, then they are not the right people for you.
but don't hold it against them. we all make mistakes, just forget it and move on.
and don't let it bring you down because you have done nothing wrong.
high school will not last forever, and people in college are much nicer and considerate.
good luck! :]

 

[JustWannaLove]

This happens to me, I wouldn't call it a problem though. Last semester, I really didn't want people to sit next to me, and I think I probably gave off a "vibe" telling them I didn't. Posture, eye contact, stuff like that I think told them "Stay away from me." Discomfort can send this same vibe I think, it's hard to look inviting when you're all tensed up and uncomfortable. If you want to sit next to other people, there's always the simple solution of making the move rather then waiting for them to come to you. I mean if you pick a seat way away from everyone else, people sort of assume you don't want to be bothered I think.

i agree with this. in college i was very reserved and very uncomfortable.
all the desks were placed in a U shape, so everyone could see each other.
i was the only one with two empty desks next to me (they were the only two empty desks in the class). in a way i was glad that i didtn have to talk to anyone, but i was kinda sad inside cause i felt like all this attention was on me for the wrong reasons, and i didnt like it. i always hated those lessons. i always felt so tense and anxious, like everyone was watching me, i always looked down, never made eye contact, and always hoped the teacher would never say my name. it was tough to keep up with schoolwork when i was so nervous. i never felt like turning up, but i had to, cause i couldnt afford to fail. every morning i'd be late, and probably judged by my classmates that i'm lazy and don't try enough. it was a very tough time to deal with. i am just glad it's all over. college was 2 years of the worst, most painful times of my life.

 

[Diend]

I noticed that too in high school and in college. I think people naturally gravitate toward others who have similar interests as them. In both cases that I noticed, it was an interest in fashion for guys. You can tell if they're into fashion by the sneakers and so, that makes it easier for someone to talk to somebody in class they've never met.

I had that experience too when I Facebook-friended a student just because he was a big fan of Tokusatsu, just as I was. Even though we never spoke before, that one commonality made me warm up to him very quickly. When we talk on facebook, the tension is gone because we have this commonality.

In your case, I think you've been witnessing these events take place. Before I was at peace with myself, I would fume over that fact and be jealous of them for making friends so quickly. But, it has happened to me a couple of times too. These things are coincidental. You can only be yourself...or be who you want to be and things will happen naturally.

However, I am still working on my initiative methods. I mean, it's not fair and realistic to have the other person take the initiative all the time. You have to do your share too. Otherwise, you can't expect to befriend strangers quickly as often.

 

[How_slow_the_Wind]

I can be comfortable with sitting alone in class. Like in University, I don't feel awkward if I'm sitting a lecture/tute alone. In highschool, however, sitting alone in class with people who used to be your friend, that was painful.

 

[lonely_drummer]

I pretty much went through university like this. The only time anyone would sit next to me was when there wasn't any seats left in class. Basically if you came late, you were stuck sitting next to the weird guy in class::

 

[KiaKaha]

I hated every goddamned minute I was at school. I left as soon as I was legally allowed too (but I mostly skipped before that anyway) - they were glad to see the back of me as I was to them.

I always sat by myself in class. It was embarrassing having no friends at school, every time a group activity came up I was always left out. Nobody wanted anything to do with me. I can recall so much misery during those days. Good riddance.