New Semester

[Dodger]

So a new semester starts tomorrow and I want to try and not be shy. That will be very hard to do though. I just want to know if anyone has any tips to help me talk to a girl or other guys to be friends with or something. I hardly have any friends and some people act like it is easy to change they say they used to be this way too, but I don't believe it exactly, it is hard to change. Advice would help a lot please.

 

[Silvox Black]

Well, before I answer your question, I'm afraid I must ask one of my own. What do you want to be in that place? Do you want to stay true to yourself? Or do you wish to become something else?

 

[SeptembersGold19]

I am dreading this semester to start.....and no it is NOT easy to change! I'm sorry I don't really have any advice because I have the same situation as you...I never talk in classes and I dread the professor calling on me!

 

[Dodger]

I want to stay the same guy but try and be less shy if possible.

 

[Silvox Black]

I want to stay the same guy but try and be less shy if possible.

If you wish to stay the same but still maintain social interaction, then the only possibility I can suggest is finding those of a like minded outlook as you. Find people you can relate to. Sum up your courage and speak to them. Of course, the majority of this is based on the luck of whether or not you can find people you relate to, and thus feel more comfortable speaking to.

 

[Krista]

So a new semester starts tomorrow and I want to try and not be shy. That will be very hard to do though. I just want to know if anyone has any tips to help me talk to a girl or other guys to be friends with or something. I hardly have any friends and some people act like it is easy to change they say they used to be this way too, but I don't believe it exactly, it is hard to change. Advice would help a lot please.

Never let anyone convince you that it's easy to change from having SA. I tend to follow the belief that anyone who had it and says they're "cured" from it is a liar. I'm sure that there are people out there who have gotten over the main bump of it but I don't believe you're ever really done with it. Other people who say it's easy are usually, based upon the people I know suffering still. Some find it easier to hide their feelings than be open with them.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

just whoever happens to sit next to you or nearby just say hello and then gradually talk to that person

 

[Noca]

I start my semester tomorrow too and I'm scared ****less!

 

[Dodger]

just whoever happens to sit next to you or nearby just say hello and then gradually talk to that person

That sounds hard.

 

[Enialis227]

That sounds hard.

You don't just have to say something randomly, just stay conscious of the situation and wait for a natural opportunity to make a comment.

 

[Noca]

You don't just have to say something randomly, just stay conscious of the situation and wait for a natural opportunity to make a comment.

ditto, that's how i make acquaintances at school.

 

[Tempus35]

My semester starts tomorrow also, and I am beyond dreading it. I not only am not good with the social interaction, but I just hate the first day, not knowing what the rules are, etc, if I can get up and goto the bathroom or not, etc (A big issue with me). And its getting into a new pattern of sleep etc.