JA2007
Well-known member
Brief personal background:
I'm a 24 year old female, live in the US. Haven't posted here in about 4 years but frequently read posts. I forgot my old username so I registered a new one. I have SA but in the past few years have learned to live with it and am attempting to live a normal life. I moved to a new state with my boyfriend about 3 years ago and am still trying to make friends here. Social interaction is still difficult for me but I push myself because I am tired of being lonely.
I invited some people to come over to my house tonight. I talked to them all about it 2 weeks ago and up until this morning everyone confirmed that they were coming. I bought "refreshments" and cleaned my house. I've been so nervous all day knowing that these people barely know each other (only as acquaintences) and that I was going to be a host for a whole evening (terrifying and liberating at the same time).
Just a few hours before they were supposed to show up people start sending me texts saying they can't make it for various reasons. I went from expecting 4 people, to expecting none. And their reasons were sketchy, like "I have to work early in the morning" and "i forgot I was having my niece spend the night".
So now I'm pissed and hurt all at the same time. I almost cried about it in front of my boyfriend and that makes me feel like I'm about 5 years old.
Advise needed: Should I let these people know that I was hurt/let down and that they shouldn't have said they were coming only to back out at the last minute? I don't want to scare them off, but I don't want to let them do this again to me. I am really sensitive.
I'm a 24 year old female, live in the US. Haven't posted here in about 4 years but frequently read posts. I forgot my old username so I registered a new one. I have SA but in the past few years have learned to live with it and am attempting to live a normal life. I moved to a new state with my boyfriend about 3 years ago and am still trying to make friends here. Social interaction is still difficult for me but I push myself because I am tired of being lonely.
I invited some people to come over to my house tonight. I talked to them all about it 2 weeks ago and up until this morning everyone confirmed that they were coming. I bought "refreshments" and cleaned my house. I've been so nervous all day knowing that these people barely know each other (only as acquaintences) and that I was going to be a host for a whole evening (terrifying and liberating at the same time).
Just a few hours before they were supposed to show up people start sending me texts saying they can't make it for various reasons. I went from expecting 4 people, to expecting none. And their reasons were sketchy, like "I have to work early in the morning" and "i forgot I was having my niece spend the night".
So now I'm pissed and hurt all at the same time. I almost cried about it in front of my boyfriend and that makes me feel like I'm about 5 years old.
Advise needed: Should I let these people know that I was hurt/let down and that they shouldn't have said they were coming only to back out at the last minute? I don't want to scare them off, but I don't want to let them do this again to me. I am really sensitive.