Rise Against
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First off Im a shy college guy and i dont have very much experience with the opposite sex. However that is not the reason why i am here. About a month ago i met this really good looking, generous, smart, athletic girl... She has had a really rough past. She has suffered rape, serious car accident and has even attempted suicide...
I really like her, but she is extremely insecure and is constantly searching for my reassurance (cant blame her). But when i give her reassurance she doesnt believe me... Like if i say "you are beautiful" she says "no im not your just staying with me until you find someone better." And this makes me feel really bad, because i really care about her and i tell her. She never accepts my compliments. Whenever i am away she constantly calls/texts me because she thinks im with someone else... even though ive never had a girlfriend until i met her. She has also offered sex, but when i declined because we really arent ready for that yet, we have only seen each other in person a couple times.... but when i said no, she automatically blamed herself and said "its because im ugly isnt it."
Im guessing she has experienced some kind of abuse in her past and I know it takes a long time to heal mentally and i am willing to help her, but is it possible to gain her trust? I really like her and i know she really likes me... but the way she views herself really bothers me because she is capable of so much.... she has the state record for high jump but acts like anyone can do it... any advice on how i can jhelp the mental healing process and gain her trust?
I really like her, but she is extremely insecure and is constantly searching for my reassurance (cant blame her). But when i give her reassurance she doesnt believe me... Like if i say "you are beautiful" she says "no im not your just staying with me until you find someone better." And this makes me feel really bad, because i really care about her and i tell her. She never accepts my compliments. Whenever i am away she constantly calls/texts me because she thinks im with someone else... even though ive never had a girlfriend until i met her. She has also offered sex, but when i declined because we really arent ready for that yet, we have only seen each other in person a couple times.... but when i said no, she automatically blamed herself and said "its because im ugly isnt it."
Im guessing she has experienced some kind of abuse in her past and I know it takes a long time to heal mentally and i am willing to help her, but is it possible to gain her trust? I really like her and i know she really likes me... but the way she views herself really bothers me because she is capable of so much.... she has the state record for high jump but acts like anyone can do it... any advice on how i can jhelp the mental healing process and gain her trust?