Never going to be happy..

[Let_It_Go]

I'm never going to be happy :: I never go out by myself. I spend most of my time online and my mum says i should be out having fun spending time with friends having boyfriends instead of being stuck in my room.. ::
but i have no confidence theres always rain in my life and no sunshine if there is sunshine then the rain just comes :: ... i wish i didn't give a f**k but i do any advice?

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Is this you?

 

[planemo]

I'm never going to be happy :: I never go out by myself. I spend most of my time online and my mum says i should be out having fun spending time with friends having boyfriends instead of being stuck in my room.. ::
but i have no confidence theres always rain in my life and no sunshine if there is sunshine then the rain just comes :: ... i wish i didn't give a f**k but i do any advice?

The only advice from someone who is in a very similar position to you, is to enjoy yourself, the best you can. Even if you spend all your time in your room. You are obviously shielding yourself from the outside world due to your lack of confidence. So in essence you're protecting yourself from harm. Now that you are safe, why should you be unhappy? I've done a lot of soul searching and I realised that i can't be outgoing or confident so I have to enjoy my life, as someone who is shy and isolated.
If we want more than what we have, then we have try and get over the hurdle of low self esteem. Try not to focus on what you don't have, but rather on the all the good things you have. I know I have been there, and this is very difficult to do sometimes, but just try.

i'm not sure if this is the advice you want to hear, but it's all I can give.

 

[Let_It_Go]

Is this you?

Where did you find that picture of me?

 

[Dead]

I know how it feels.
I've never had a boyfriend and don't feel close to many people.
But when I'm alone I always try to feel up the time by doing something enjoyable.
I know some ways to increase happiness.
1) watch funny kid cartoons- for usual they don't mention romance that much and are light hearted, never dealing with sad issues.
2)Take three capsules of Omega 3 a day- after six weeks your depression should have decreased a fair bit.
3) Instead of being sad- find some things that you can look forward too. Look for webcomics that update everyday, read books about areas that interest you- stay away from romance and that sort if it only makes you long for what you don't have.
If being with friends and boyfriends is cut out from your life and you don't have to deal with it you'll find you will actually feel happier I find and less pressured.

 

[Feathers]

Let It Go, mums can be concerned and ever so cheerful, eh?

There was a chain letter going around about a girl who 'got married with a guy with aids, got kids/pregnant...' and then it said 'oh, no worries mum, I just flanked the exam/the year and will have to re-take'... sometimes parents need things to be put into perspective...

are you doing criminal things, taking illegal drugs, prostitutiting yourself, behaving slutty...? no? Then your mum can be lucky she has such a good daughter!! (maybe she needs to be told THAT too!!)

Today my mum was 'announcing' something terrible again (I had a backache relapse, and she was 'fortune-telling' again!) and I said, 'Hey mum, thanks for being ever-so-cheerful and announcing such good and pleasant things' and such, and she was just a bit flabbergasted lol and then would leave it alone haha.. (Dad and sis chuckled)

so if your mum is anything like mine, I'm not surprised about low self-esteem and being in your room... There are ways to work on your confidence and self-esteem and outlook too!! Did you get any of the books I told you about?
Another would be by Louise Hay: You Can Heal Your Life. It helped me lots when I was younger!!
Step 1: go to the library, or check online, if they have these books.. or go to a used bookstore or Amazon if you can afford buying them.. for me, library would be a first choice.. if you're embarassed about getting such books from a library, you could say they're for a project or something?

You don't know what the future brings, and neither does your mum (or mine).
Being too much online can be bad indeed, and can make depression worse or even cause it, if you're on the computer 5+hrs a day... so it's good to find other things to do too..

Have you found any good clubs or volunteering opportunities where you live too?
Take care hun, and know things CAN get better.. you do need to work on them getting better tho!