need MAJOR help...

[R3X]

hey guys,it's about this girl(the same girl from my other thread)...let's say that i sent her a message yesterday on her profile saying
title : just wanna say hey
"it's me,the guy at the bus stop.....you know,the 'unfriendly' dude lol....since i saw your pic on my cousin's profle,just thought i'd say hey..."
her reply was
"unfriendly dude??Sorry can't remember,can you give me some other clues?"
and 5 hours later after that, her reply was
"aahhhhh.....i remember.....saw your pic....oh hi."
guys,at the bolded part,from her reply does that mean she's not interested at all or i'm just thinking/assuming too much??

so what i need help is on how to reply back to her 'cause seriously,this is a first time i'm sending any messages to ANY girl + i was damn freakin' scared when i sent the first message lol + i am out of ideas on how to reply back...::

ANY help is deeply appreciated....

 

[DanFC]

I get the vibe from her reply that she kind of has a negative image of you, but not one so bad that she doesn't want to respond back. So brush off why you were "unfriendly" (maybe even apologize with a reason?) and begin anew, which I know is nigh impossible for us over-complicators.

 

[divethruhaze]

Don't overthink, it almost always leads to nothing except useless stress. Was that a facebook profile?

I'm by no way a genius in these things, but I'll throw you some ideas:

Glad you recognised me by the pic and not by the 'unfriendly dude description' lol
How was the holidays? / Ready to back to school? / So how do you know [cousin's name] ? (1 of the 3 questions that seems more relevant to your case and you are comfortable talking about)

 

[R3X]

I get the vibe from her reply that she kind of has a negative image of you, but not one so bad that she doesn't want to respond back. So brush off why you were "unfriendly" (maybe even apologize with a reason?) and begin anew, which I know is nigh impossible for us over-complicators.

i get that feeling too so that's why i'm asking..if she is interested she could have asked something like 'how are you doing now?' or something like that at the end right? but since she only said 'oh hi' and nothing else it sort of makes me assume she has this 'bad image' of me in which i have no idea at all...a negative image eh? well,considering the fact that i have SA/Shyness i tend to send 'unfriendly' signals you know? and these signals are coming off as 'stuck-up' most of the time so i can probably understand why she doesnt like me...i tend to let people misunderstand me really...::

 

[R3X]

Don't overthink, it almost always leads to nothing except useless stress. Was that a facebook profile?

I'm by no way a genius in these things, but I'll throw you some ideas:

Glad you recognised me by the pic and not by the 'unfriendly dude description' lol
How was the holidays? / Ready to back to school? / So how do you know [cousin's name] ? (1 of the 3 questions that seems more relevant to your case and you are comfortable talking about)

Yup,facebook.....in which i RARELY go on.... lol
Ooh,i like the "Glad you recognised me by the pic and not by the 'unfriendly dude description' lol".......i'll probably use it...thanks man....

to be honest,i'm not just scared of her but her friends as well...why? because she might 'discuss' this with her friends...and her friends sort of know me(well,they've only seen me around but not know me personally)......
so,i have so much fear in me right now that i don't know what to do...i guess when i said in that thread "i've given up on her",i lied eh? guess i still want her.....

 

[Ignace]

Don't worry about her friends. And yes, the cliché questions. Questions as divethruhaze said will get you started, or general questions as asking how she is, .. Don't lose your motivation cause of 1 answer.

 

[AlizeD]

maybe she wasn't really shure what to write herself?
just try answering, like something divethruhaze said. and than you can see how she'S answering that. maybe you will know more than.

 

[R3X]

maybe she wasn't really shure what to write herself?
just try answering, like something divethruhaze said. and than you can see how she'S answering that. maybe you will know more than.

i did answer.....woot! haha
she replied back with a laugh....
thanks guys,REALLY appreciate the help....
i'm chatting with her right now....but i really don't think i can do this...
i mean,i'm so insecure......urrgghhh....she might dislike me if i showed any signs of insecurity.....i guess that's my worse enemy right now,my insecurities...::

 

[Liam17]

i did answer.....woot! haha
she replied back with a laugh....
thanks guys,REALLY appreciate the help....
i'm chatting with her right now....but i really don't think i can do this...
i mean,i'm so insecure......urrgghhh....she might dislike me if i showed any signs of insecurity.....i guess that's my worse enemy right now,my insecurities...::

I know how you feel man, i'm very insecure, and i'm meeting katie in like 5 hours.

I'm nervous like hell. But the thing is, you've got to take this chance. You've got nothing to lose.

 

[Kiwong]

Hang in there bro. You're on fire matey.

 

[3lefts]

Ah, try to feel more comfortable with your insecurities. Mine used to drive me crazy, even when they liked me and thought everything was ohk, I ruined it by thinking it wasn't and thinking I wasn't any good...
You should watch that movie, 'She's Out of My league'.
Silly, but explains all perfectly.

 

[R3X]

hey guys,uhhhh what's happened is she requested me to be her friend but the thing is my profile,is private as in "family/close friends" private.....lol
one side says "ADD HER FOOL!ISN'T THIS WHAT YOU'VE WANTED?!" and another says "DON'T ADD HER! she's the only female friends in your list! wouldn't that be awkward? plus,people might be asking /assuming she's interested in me or something(you know families right?)or even worse,my girlfriend(!!)...
so guys,i know it's quite silly but i need help again LOL

 

[AlizeD]

liam, r3x u can do it guys!! =)
there's nothing real to be scared of, right?
r3x, since you only chatting atm you have time to get used to her, right?
babysteps, dude, just take babysteps xD

 

[AlizeD]

uhh, don't panik!
she requested right? so she probably saw your friendlist and knows that. and even if someone asumes strange things, you can just explain it. don't worry =)
just accept it =)

 

[R3X]

liam, r3x u can do it guys!! =)
there's nothing real to be scared of, right?
r3x, since you only chatting atm you have time to get used to her, right?
babysteps, dude, just take babysteps xD

hahaha,the funny thing is i'm laughing at myself...haha
cause it;s so freakin' silly...haha
BUT the problem is she's telling me to add her...like "hey,add me!" =.="
oh,it's not chatting,more like 'Messages'....you know,PM's..

 

[divethruhaze]

Forget what others might think if you add her, and don't get too stressed/over excited.

A solution might be:
Tell her the truth (you usually add only family and really close friends).
Then say something along the lines of: "but since you insist i'll make an exception to it this time." Then add her.

 

[alejandro84]

i wouldnt move too fast if i were you mate, it sounds as if you are the quiet guy from the bus stop just take it slowly and dont scare her off or anything i think ive done this many times myself, got carried away about it.

 

[R3X]

Forget what others think, and don't get too stressed/over excited.

A solution might be:
Tell her the truth (you usually add only family and really close friends).
Then say something along the lines of: "but since you insist i'll make an exception to it this time." Then add her.

heh,i guess that's me......getting stressed for lame reasons...
and uhhh....*gulp*i've added her....i am seriously nervous....i'm not scared of her but more like my family....urrgghh....i'm definitely sure they're gonna bombard me with questions... =.=

THANKS a mill for bringing me back from 'nervous'-land...lol
really appreciate it...