My Mum is always criticizing me.

[SmileMore]

I'm supposed to be going out today to visit my Dad who i don't see that often so i'm already anxious. After i'd gotten ready she made a comment like "oh, you're wearing THAT?" I said that i was and then she started saying things like "you always wear the same things".

I wear what i feel comfortable in and i also don't really get much of a chance to buy new outfits as i don't have much money and my anxiety stops me from going shopping by myself. She's always got something to say and no matter what i do she'll find fault with it. She knows i'm very self conscious and have low self esteem so why does she keep saying thigs that are only going to make me feel worse?

 

[MikeyC]

She might not realise what she's doing. Bring this up with her and perhaps the two of you can sort it out.

 

[jaim38]

I have the same issue with my mom too. I also don't have many shirts that actually look good on me (ie they fit, don't have stains or holes, etc) so when I wear one of those shirts my mom would tell me "you wearing that again?! Go change into something else!" Plus she doesn't have very good fashion sense, especially when it comes to helping me dress. She keeps on buying those big baggy shirts and pants for me to wear, but I won't ever step out of the house with those. Plus she thinks the shirts that look good on her will look good on me too, but that's not true many times. She never taught me how to dress or how to groom (no I'm not kidding).

 

[jc972]

Parents and their teenage/grown children rarely agree on clothing that I've seen. If she has that big of a problem with what you wear why don't she offer to take you shopping instead of criticizing you?

 

[zen_mistress]

Sounds controlling to me. Some mothers take it upon themselves to give unsolicited advice to their children.