My list of the things people talk about... and how I feel like a complete alien

tooshytosay

tooshytosay

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When I listen to people having their "typical" light conversations -
I don't know, I just feel so disconnected, so lost.

I mean I can listen to the conversations that children have (it's so "pure", lol). But when I listen to adults? Ugh. My mind kind of switches off and I say to myself, why am I in this group listening to all this stuff?

People talk about...

- What happened to them the other day
- What almost happened to them the other day
- What someone told them the other day
- What they told someone the other day
- What they saw someone doing the other day
- What someone saw them doing the other day
- What they're planning to do on some future date
- What someone else is going to plan to do on some future date
- Some passing comment about some passing thing
- Someone responding with a passing comment to the above
- Food
- That they like this... though they don't like that... oh but they like something else... but actually they hate something else... (people are so opinionated!)
- How they're feeling (along the lines of ... "tired" "sleepy" "hungry"; not things like "happiness" "sadness")
- The weekend. The weekend before that. The next weekend. The weekend after that. Some weekend many years ago.
- Holidays. The previous holidays. The next holidays.
- The cup of tea / coffee. The previous cup of tea / coffee. The next cup of tea / coffee.
- Events coming up. Events that happened. Events that I, as someone with SA, would never have been to, nor will go to, since at said "events", what they will be mostly doing will be having conversations like this.
- In-group "news"
- Some comments about local news and events
- More opinions about everyday things. Opinions about objects. Opinions about what they've seen and heard. Opinions about what happened 5 mins ago. 1 hr ago. 3 hrs ago. Opinions about what will happen in 10 mins. 1 hr. 3 hrs.
- All the things that people your age do but you never took part in because of your SA.

Perhaps this is the real impact SA has had on my life. When I hear people talk about such "normal" things my mind just goes numb. I feel like an alien, plonked in the middle of normal human beings. Sometimes I might feel like some creepy spy, observing people engaging in their everyday conversations yet never being able to say anything remotely like that myself.
 
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Aron

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First of all, thanks, this post cracked me up. :D It's just so funny how you listed these things.

But yeah, I often feel disconnected too, although sometimes I'm able to take part in these kind of conversations, and other times it only comes to my mind later what I could have said, because I'm so not used to smalltalk.
 
Aussie_Lad

Aussie_Lad

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Someone enlighten me as to what children talk about? I don't have children in my life much and it's been so long since I was a child that I have forgotten what they talk about. Oh and when I was a child I always wanted to converse with adults as I found them much more interesting.
 
R3K

R3K

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i saw a documentary a few years ago about early colonial america and how its leaders concocted their revolutionary ideas and theories and such. turns out a lot of it spawned in old fashioned tea houses in london england. dudes sitting around in their wigs getting buzzed off tea (maybe the occasional ale or rum) and the caffine high would kinda spur rebelious political agendas out of their minds and they'd sit in those tea houses (probably smoking a good deal of cigars and pipes also) for hours and hours everyday bouncing theories and ideas off each other because tea houses were kind of a safe neutral place to discuss any sort of radical ideas.

anyway, as i was watching this i tried to imagine if there were any places like this in modern times. like places where intellectuals or semi-intellectuals (me, at best) actually sat down and got deep into serious issues with socrates-like debates and mind-tingling discussions over tea/coffee/cigars (or even without the caffine and tobacco boost.) i scraped my mind and could only think of like maybe college campuses in philosophy class, or maybe weird clubs of students and teachers or something. Not being a student anymore, i felt very sullen of a sudden. occasionally i'll run into someone at a bar and a semi-intelligent conversation about politics will get going, but it's pathetically short-lived and the distractions are immense (drunk women spilling their beers on your shirt.)

i feel exactly as the OP does. 99.8% of all conversatons i'm in or overhear are paraphrased from old episodes of Jersey Shore. and i don't want to just wander onto some college campus and try to find some super exclusive philosphy or political club cause then i'll feel like a loser who can't afford college or handle it cause of my SA.

every passing, casual light conversation will always be about drama/sex/cars. never anything else.
 
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