30 minutes ago my mum got a called from *social services* and they said that they were going to send out one of their team with the doctor to try to get me help if I request it. This scared me shitless when my mum told me , because to me 1 person is a big crowd in itself.
My gosh! No wonder you are scared! Your absolutely right and at THIS point, ONE is a crowd for you! Although they do have your best interests in mind and their intentions are all good, unfortunately, they only know what they read out of books and don't genuinely know first hand how we suffer and what takes place. Honestly Madcat, they have NO IDEA of the fear this is causing you, they are probably thinking you are thrilled & excited about help being on the way!
My advice, once again, is to tell your Mum what you expressed here, how you FEEL and tell her that you prefer to see the visitors in your room, or another room
ONE at A TIME! Your Mum can talk with one while you are are with the other, and when you are through...then 'switch visitors'.
No matter what Madcat, keep this attitude:
. I'm gonna get through this fucking hell hole and take my place. I ain't gonna be afraid of people seeing me!
You were right about what you mentioned yesterday as well, (about your father) so keep telling yourself that you REFUSE to end up LIKE HIM!
Fight this war and
WIN Madcat!! You
ARE capeable of doing it and I am cheering you on! Don't let the disoorder(s) control you and make you weak! This may sound corny to you, but think of it as one of the games you play or have played on the net and be DETERMINED to win! When ever the voices of doubt start to convince you otherwise-- fight them with your strongest weapons, your will and determination not to be like your father and to make things better for you and you Mum!!!
This may sound corny to you too, but I'm working on my agoraphobia issues as well, and when I go out, I hold something in my hand or hands for security, and for my nervousness. What works for me are my keys on my keyring. I can keep my nervousness under control easier by tightly holding the keys, and the keys also serve as 'reminders' to me that one of them will unlock the door to my 'safe place', and that my safe place is there for me, waiting and that I don't need to be in that particular situation forever! (My psych approves of this, too!)
My fingers
and my toes will all be crossed for you Madcat, and again, my prayers and BEST wishes and going to right there with the rest of your artillery! :wink:
Onward and upward Madcat!!