I need strong, objective people to read my story, and determine who's at fault for my bad relationship with my brother.
I think it started in grade 3. My brother, let's call him Jon, started calling me names like "stupid, idiot, etc". Because of my Tourettes, I was unable to realize that what he said were jokes, and so I took what he said very seriously. After that, I was determined to take EVERYTHING Jon said as personal attacks. Therefore, there would always be a lot of verbal abuse from both sides, and we occasionally fought physically.
I remember one fight we had. In grade 7, I told Jon I wanted to be a pilot when I grow up. He said I couldn't because of my Tourettes. We argued a lot, and I finally threw a pillow at him. It missed, and hit his laptop instead. He went berserk after that, but we did make up.
In grade 10, my OCD took a turn for the worst, and I began taking out my stress on him.
My brother thinks it's HIS fault, because whenever he told me to do something, and I didn't do it, he would get really angry. I also had a bad temper though. Our relationship is getting better though, and we're warming up to each other.
Who's at fault here?
ALSO, does Tourettes make it hard for one to understand social cues? Because that's what my flute teacher, who knows a lot about Tourettes (had it for all of her 40-something year life, attended numerous TS conferences, is leader of a TS group in my community) told me.
I think it started in grade 3. My brother, let's call him Jon, started calling me names like "stupid, idiot, etc". Because of my Tourettes, I was unable to realize that what he said were jokes, and so I took what he said very seriously. After that, I was determined to take EVERYTHING Jon said as personal attacks. Therefore, there would always be a lot of verbal abuse from both sides, and we occasionally fought physically.
I remember one fight we had. In grade 7, I told Jon I wanted to be a pilot when I grow up. He said I couldn't because of my Tourettes. We argued a lot, and I finally threw a pillow at him. It missed, and hit his laptop instead. He went berserk after that, but we did make up.
In grade 10, my OCD took a turn for the worst, and I began taking out my stress on him.
My brother thinks it's HIS fault, because whenever he told me to do something, and I didn't do it, he would get really angry. I also had a bad temper though. Our relationship is getting better though, and we're warming up to each other.
Who's at fault here?
ALSO, does Tourettes make it hard for one to understand social cues? Because that's what my flute teacher, who knows a lot about Tourettes (had it for all of her 40-something year life, attended numerous TS conferences, is leader of a TS group in my community) told me.