Meeting a girl after school tommorow

[da_illest101]

So I found this girl online and she asked me to go out tommorow. So far i found a stupid excuse to every single girl I was interested in meeting online, even cancel at the last minute. I don't want to continue doing that, except the advice of actually go, what should I do?

 

[UnOccupied]

Where do you meet these girls?

 

[lisalove22]

I think you should go. Ask yourself whats the worst that could happend? She is not gonna judge you if you are quite and a bit shy, if she does then she is nothing to date. There are so many girls out there that wont judge you. A lot of us girls just think thats cute

I would say that 98% of this kind of "first date with social phobia" Ive heard of have been a real sucess for the sufferer

 

[da_illest101]

Where do you meet these girls?

lol i made it sound like i get a lot, try ok cupid, plenty of fish, even craiglist ( watch out for that one it's full of spam). the one i got it's from a montreal site, unless you live there or nearby it's pretty useless to you.

 

[da_illest101]

I think you should go. Ask yourself whats the worst that could happend? She is not gonna judge you if you are quite and a bit shy, if she does then she is nothing to date. There are so many girls out there that wont judge you. A lot of us girls just think thats cute

I would say that 98% of this kind of "first date with social phobia" Ive heard of have been a real sucess for the sufferer

I hope you are right, she doesn't seem to mind, i told her i'm shy not that i have SA. I hope i don't faint if i go

 

[JamesSmith]

If I was you, I would go just because I'm so desperate for friends. It wouldn't even be about dating, I would consider it a shot at a friend. To take the pressure off of yourself, just keep reminding yourself that you are just trying to make friends most of all. For some reason, most people feel less pressure when they walk into meeting someone when they are trying to make friends instead of trying to date them. Try to adopt an attitude where you know it's okay if she doesn't like you. There are always other people. So yes, you should do it. It's worth a shot because of the fact that you may have a friend out of it at least, maybe a g/f. If you don't go, you get nothing except regret.

 

[da_illest101]

If I was you, I would go just because I'm so desperate for friends. It wouldn't even be about dating, I would consider it a shot at a friend. To take the pressure off of yourself, just keep reminding yourself that you are just trying to make friends most of all. For some reason, most people feel less pressure when they walk into meeting someone when they are trying to make friends instead of trying to date them. Try to adopt an attitude where you know it's okay if she doesn't like you. There are always other people. So yes, you should do it. It's worth a shot because of the fact that you may have a friend out of it at least, maybe a g/f. If you don't go, you get nothing except regret.

you are right, i have been holding myself for way to long. I have you ever consider trying to make friend online and meeting them in real life?

 

[JamesSmith]

you are right, i have been holding myself for way to long. I have you ever consider trying to make friend online and meeting them in real life?

That's what I'm sort of trying to do now. I figured on the dating websites I could find a girl that wanted to be friends and if it goes further than that, then that's cool too. If they want to call it a date, okay, I'll still go and treat it like friends at first. I don't want to ask guys to hang out on the dating websites cuz that would be weird because they would often assume i'm gay.
But yeah, that's what I'm doing now on OKCupid and PlentyofFish, I'm trying to make friends with women.

 

[da_illest101]

That's what I'm sort of trying to do now. I figured on the dating websites I could find a girl that wanted to be friends and if it goes further than that, then that's cool too. If they want to call it a date, okay, I'll still go and treat it like friends at first. I don't want to ask guys to hang out on the dating websites cuz that would be weird because they would often assume i'm gay.
But yeah, that's what I'm doing now on OKCupid and PlentyofFish, I'm trying to make friends with women.

that's a good idea, if you really want male friend without people assuming you are something you are not then try craiglist

 

[Minty]

Focus intently on something else. Do you like video games? Play the eff out of 'em. Do you like movies or have a particularly good book you can shove your nose into? Do it. Just...whatever happens, don't think about the meet-up. You'll eventually convince yourself to back out.

Good luck

 

[da_illest101]

so yea I didn't have the courage, i bail out like I always do. now i'm back into avoiding and hiding ::

 

[gio289]

Damn sorry to hear that man. Try to muster up all the courage you have and set another date and go. Even if the date is a disaster, you wont feel as bad as if you didnt go period. Some coworkers are always inviting me out to go with them and I always give 'em an excuse. They caught me in my lie, so this time I have to go. I am looking forward to it, even though its very nerve wracking, especially since I'm goin to have a few drinks in me lol. But yea man, don't wait too long. you dont want to be stuck in this "what if" cycle forever...