Low self esteem.. Help.. :(

[Skatergirl]

Hey everyone.
I have a low self esteem, and its a big problem.
I see myself as a person who is not good enough, and boring, unnatractive.. ::
How can i learn to 'love' myself?
I find it so hard... This is a huge problem for me..
Because i think everyone feels the same about me.. How i feel about myself.. ::

 

[desoconnor]

Hey Skater

Tell us about you? I bet there is loads of good stuff

 

[Mokkat]

Don't worry Sas, it's not so bad

First of all, you have the guts make your own youtube channel and fill it with videos of yourself, that takes courage!

You're a pretty girl with a beautiful voice, and you have something most of us inhere dream about - a sweet partner

You could start by reading all the positive comments on on your videos, I hope that makes you feel better about yourself

 

[recluse]

Skatergirl you are the opposite of how you described yourself. That's just your low self esteem doing the talking. I've seen you on your videos and you are talented and attractive.

Remember that how you see yourself is not how others see you

 

[vaduzcrew]

@Skatergirl: I Also have a very low self-esteem until now, and it's a bad one. I find it very hard to speak in front of others or just to say hi to a group of friends whose coming my way. As an addition, I've born with stuttering, so it's even harder for me to say bout my feelings, and I ended up regretting my self for not knowing how to cope with my low self-esteem. Anyway, how old are you? Coz I'm sure u have a lot of positive sides inside u. ^-^

PS: Is that your picture on the avatar? Wow, you're so cute.

 

[Yoyshaia]

I would recommend that you take a friend or family member who you can really trust, and tell them to give you an accurate assessment of how you're looking or sounding or whatever whenever you see them.

You'd need to tell them that it's important that they don't always say "you'reamazingyou'reamazingyou'reamazing", because although it is vital that you hear that from people, it doesn't help any if it's all you hear!

I've managed to have pretty good self esteem all my life. Even as a teenager in the midst of other people thinking they were fat or ugly or stupid. I attribute that to the fact that my mum was always really honest with me. If my hair was looking awful she'd say "you need to do something about your hair", if what I was wearing made me look fat she'd tell me to go change. The great thing about that was that I knew if she said I looked good, she meant it. And she told me that a LOT too. She still tells me often that I'm beautiful. And I know that she means it.

I don't know if any of that is useful. The thing to remember if you do want to try it, is that they have to be gentle with you. So pick someone who loves you and wants to look after you. Good luck with your self esteem =]