Looking at people directly

[FriendlyShadow]

How do you feel when you make eye contact while you're talking to people. Most of the time when I talk to people, I have trouble making eye contact because my eyes roam everywhere else except them/ And I can't look them in the eye while I'm talking. It just feels weird to me when i look at somebody up close, or look them in the eyes.

 

[laure15]

I used to talk and make eye contact with people, but it looked like I am staring at them which made some of them feel uncomfortable. I also find it distracting to have to frequently make eye contact AND keep the convo going.

I don't make much eye contact with people anymore. When I speak w/o looking at the person, it helps my mind think more clearly.

 

[xDreamseller]

I try to at times, although it freaks me out. It's not that I'm nervous doing it or anything, I just get weird-ed out. I don't get why it's an apparently important thing anyway, I don't see the difference when people talk to me and don't look at me in the eyes.

Anyone know why you're supposed to look at peoples eyes? I usually end up looking at their mouth more often than not.

 

[jryden]

I don't get why it's an apparently important thing anyway, I don't see the difference when people talk to me and don't look at me in the eyes.

Anyone know why you're supposed to look at peoples eyes? I usually end up looking at their mouth more often than not.

This! I dont get why ppl think you cant listen if you're not looking at them. I listen better when I am not looking at someone.

A little contact is fine but I cant stare at someone for long. My mind starts wandering. "LIke oh I didnt know you had blue eyes", "I wonder how she gets her eyebrows to look like that". lol

 

[21NZ]

i always try way too hard to look natural and end up looking anything but...

me telling myself what to do: look at theirs eyes for 5 sec NO more ,now look away casually, now back at them, then pretend you saw some outside.. oh god what have they been talking about? ***

 

[NP88]

Socialization requires that you do certain things. Humans pick up on signals such as eye contact body language and the general feeling ( electromagnetic signals) produced by someone. Nearly all subconsciously. I think eye contact is a very conscious and subconscious clue that tells a person if your interested in what they have to say.

 

[hardy]

I stop looking at them and instead look down when i think i am staring or making them uncomfortable. There is always the looking down option initially. When someone stares at you, how does it feel? So, we might better stop doing it consciously.

Also, if you think you are not paying respect by looking down, just look at them for a few seconds( it's not so fearful this way). I have begun watching my breath every once in a while, it calms me down. And when i am calm, i am more confident, doing the right things.Also it Helps to be with positive people and good books.

 

[HiddenErin]

I avoid direct eye contact with with people I don't know that well, because if I catch someone looking back at me there is a good 70% chance I might get uncontrollable full on blushing and then it just gets awkward. But if I know/trust the person I don't have a problem making eye contact.