Liking someone because they like you ??????

[da_illest101]

Did it ever happen to you ?

Long story short I never thought I could be interested in her except for her look until she told me she was interested in me, a few months back, then she seems like the greatest girl ever. But now I'm starting to fall back from cloud 9 and I realised that I don't think about her everyday like i did past girl, who were a lot less pretty, that I wanted to be with. Our convos are going downhill, yet she seem to be more and more interested. Yesterday I even avoid her a bit, i went on fb and log off as soon as i saw her. Now we are talking and the convo has been a bunch of OK or K. It seems like the bird is gonna crash without even taking flight.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I guess I don't understand this concept because it has never happened to me before, but it sounds lovely.

Maybe you can't see someone well enough to fall for them until they open themselves to you or even until after they confess how they feel for you?
I've read plenty of stories like this... kind of like; 'I didn't know what I wanted until it was right infront of me' type of thing.

 

[da_illest101]

I guess I don't understand this concept because it has never happened to me before, but it sounds lovely.

Maybe you can't see someone well enough to fall for them until they open themselves to you or even until after they confess how they feel for you?
I've read plenty of stories like this... kind of like; 'I didn't know what I wanted until it was right infront of me' type of thing.

In my case it's more like:

da_illest101: man this girl is grumpy and want everyone to do her things, I'll never be interested in her except for her look.

girl: da_illest101 i dream about, i like you

da_illest101: You are the best thing since sliced bread

don't worry i'm not getting played by the girl

 

[Newtype]

Maybe you just spend too much time talking to her online. As much as I like the Internet, it can also be poison sometimes. Maybe the conversations would be different if she was actually next to you.

 

[da_illest101]

Maybe you just spend too much time talking to her online. As much as I like the Internet, it can also be poison sometimes. Maybe the conversations would be different if she was actually next to you.

yea it was before, we are in the program at school so in the same class. It's easier to talk about school then anything else really

 

[TheSanctuarian]

To be honest, I don't think you are "liking" this person much at all, the theory of liking some one ONLY because they like you is still not understood (what came first the chicken or the egg. Eh?) what you are probably feeling is lust. a horrid but perfectly normal human emotion. if its lust, stay away!

 

[Psychedelicious]

Ugh

I almost feel like I would only like someone if they liked me. Well not necessarily that, but I would only ever tell anyone who I liked that I liked them, if I was 100% certain they liked me too. I'm pretty sure that someone liking me first, almost whoever it is, is going to have a high chance of me liking them too. It's something that wouldn't really happen anyways.

 

[megalon]

I voted no. I'm going to assume you mean in terms of romantic attraction. I think if you're already attracted to someone, then the fact that they like you as well would would certainly add to it. However, if the fact that they like you is the only factor and there's no other attraction, than it doesn't matter. There was a girl who liked me, the girl who I went on my only date with. I wanted to like her, but unfortunately I was not physically attracted to her. I felt bad about it, but you can't force that sort of thing. The fact that she liked me was irrelevant.

 

[Beyond Timid]

I guess it's the fact that she likes you which made you ecstatic. I would feel the same way, too. On the other hand, don't like someone just because they like you. It would just hurt them if they figured out you were playing along. Tell them straight up how you feel.

 

[da_illest101]

I guess it's the fact that she likes you which made you ecstatic. I would feel the same way, too. On the other hand, don't like someone just because they like you. It would just hurt them if they figured out you were playing along. Tell them straight up how you feel.

I got to admit that I don't know how i feel, sometimes I like her a lot other times not so much. it's getting annoying

 

[da_illest101]

I voted no. I'm going to assume you mean in terms of romantic attraction. I think if you're already attracted to someone, then the fact that they like you as well would would certainly add to it. However, if the fact that they like you is the only factor and there's no other attraction, than it doesn't matter. There was a girl who liked me, the girl who I went on my only date with. I wanted to like her, but unfortunately I was not physically attracted to her. I felt bad about it, but you can't force that sort of thing. The fact that she liked me was irrelevant.

Yea you are right, I was interested in her because she is very good looking but her personality isn't what I would normally go after. She is not a bad person but I don't find her to be nice enough and always expect everything to go her way. But when she told me she liked me it's like everything bad became irrelevant lol

 

[da_illest101]

Someone has only "liked" me once, when I was 12, and I do think that fact influenced my feelings back. I think I liked the "Holy ****, someone likes me!" concept more than I did her, not because she wasn't nice I just didn't see her that way before that (again, I was 12). I was too young then I think, but reading it back it sounds like self-esteem may play a role, that someone liking me sounds so crazy that I wanted to jump on it. Or maybe the attractiveness of security, that knowing someone already likes you means you don't have to worry about putting yourself out their, you know the feelings would be returned.



She later asked me out, which I accredit as one of the triggers for all my problems. After about a week I went completely mute around her and could only communicate through notes. Strangely, despite me being one crappy counterpart, it went on for 3 more months and I had to end it, she deserved something better.

Come to think of it that sound pretty much how it went with my first girl friend. It lasted a week , I had no attraction to her and we didn't have anything in common, but she liked me and always wanted to be around me. I don't want to repeat my past mistakes and the same one you did. I think I only like her as a friend but the fact that she likes me is corrupting the way I think