Let's be honest with ourselves

[Steppen-Wolf]

Yes, I can't blame anyone else at all for being a pathetic person.

Why am I a pathetic person?, because I'm a smart and logical human being that has succumbed to his mental weaknesses and wasted my potential.

It's no one else's fault that I spend almost all day in front of the computer instead of exercising, studying or at least taking a walk around town as to stop being a loser who only stays in his room.

It's my fault that I feel alone, because yeah, there aren't many people I can bond with, but in my stupid search for "perfection" I've wasted countless oportunities to make some sort of relationship, no matter how shallow.

It's my fault that I still feel so dependant to a long distance relationship that ended over a year ago, that I've humilliated myself begging for attention and love from someone that's no longer a part of my life in that way.

It's noone else's fault, not my family, not the society, not the world, not the universe.

It's my fault alone, and therefore the power to change it all it's noone else's but mine.

 

[Bustn Justin]

I totally get what you mean.

I blame myself for my depression and anxiety. Although people have outcascasted me and treated me lie crap which contributes to the anxiety; I could have had a different attitude about it and rise above those who put me down.

I choose not to go out, exercize, learn a new hobby, make friends, or have a girlfriend.

On the flip side, I choose to forgive myself for the mistakes that I have made and take control to be myself and not put much importance on what others think.

 

[CosmicNeurotica]

Yes, I can't blame anyone else at all for being a pathetic person.

Why am I a pathetic person?, because I'm a smart and logical human being that has succumbed to his mental weaknesses and wasted my potential.

It's no one else's fault that I spend almost all day in front of the computer instead of exercising, studying or at least taking a walk around town as to stop being a loser who only stays in his room.

It's my fault that I feel alone, because yeah, there aren't many people I can bond with, but in my stupid search for "perfection" I've wasted countless oportunities to make some sort of relationship, no matter how shallow.

It's my fault that I still feel so dependant to a long distance relationship that ended over a year ago, that I've humilliated myself begging for attention and love from someone that's no longer a part of my life in that way.

It's noone else's fault, not my family, not the society, not the world, not the universe.

It's my fault alone, and therefore the power to change it all it's noone else's but mine.

That was deep Steppen. Hit home..
Thank you for the post.

 

[thegunners21]

Yes, I can't blame anyone else at all for being a pathetic person.

Why am I a pathetic person?, because I'm a smart and logical human being that has succumbed to his mental weaknesses and wasted my potential.

It's no one else's fault that I spend almost all day in front of the computer instead of exercising, studying or at least taking a walk around town as to stop being a loser who only stays in his room.

It's my fault that I feel alone, because yeah, there aren't many people I can bond with, but in my stupid search for "perfection" I've wasted countless oportunities to make some sort of relationship, no matter how shallow.

It's my fault that I still feel so dependant to a long distance relationship that ended over a year ago, that I've humilliated myself begging for attention and love from someone that's no longer a part of my life in that way.

It's noone else's fault, not my family, not the society, not the world, not the universe.

It's my fault alone, and therefore the power to change it all it's noone else's but mine.

You are on the right track in realizing that it is within ourselves to change ourself. Now you have to implement some steps to make it happen.

I would recommend taking up some form of exercising. Even if it's just a walk in the neighborhood park, it can give you a positive boost.

 

[matthew_]

This was incredibly bold of you. I am VERY sure with the amount of strength and willpower it took to write that, that you ARE capable of incredible change.

 

[Mickery]

I think you should be a little easier on yourself and consider that fault and responsibility may not be the same thing. Good luck.

 

[EscapeArtist]

Yes, I can't blame anyone else at all for being a pathetic person.

Why am I a pathetic person?, because I'm a smart and logical human being that has succumbed to his mental weaknesses and wasted my potential.

It's no one else's fault that I spend almost all day in front of the computer instead of exercising, studying or at least taking a walk around town as to stop being a loser who only stays in his room.

It's my fault that I feel alone, because yeah, there aren't many people I can bond with, but in my stupid search for "perfection" I've wasted countless oportunities to make some sort of relationship, no matter how shallow.

It's my fault that I still feel so dependant to a long distance relationship that ended over a year ago, that I've humilliated myself begging for attention and love from someone that's no longer a part of my life in that way.

It's noone else's fault, not my family, not the society, not the world, not the universe.

It's my fault alone, and therefore the power to change it all it's noone else's but mine.

No, the fact that you have this is not your fault. They are the result of certain imbalances in the body, mind, 'soul'. The responsibility you have is for not thinking you deserve it enough to have what you want out of life. You realize that you are very near taking responsibility for being able to change your situation? This is progress. You are an extremely powerful person who can make anything happen, but "I'm a smart and logical human being that has succumbed to his mental weaknesses and wasted my potential." << that right there pits all of your power against you. Be careful with such statements, it's only true if you really believe it. There is no such thing as wasted potential, as everything has a reason and you are not dead yet.

 

[matthew_]

@ above post

Agreed.


Social phobia (and the inaction linked to it) certainly involves me, it's certainly related to my life, and in some cases, my choices.Just because I have the ability to change my problems, does not mean that they can *snap of the fingers* go away either. Most people have catalysts. Things that caused this particular ball to roll the way it does.

Try and think of every day is a free day. When you feel like making the change, don't do with with baggage of compounded guilt. Nomatter if you have been doing this for 5 months, 10 years, or 50 years.

Baby Steps, less blame, and more freedom within the cage, eventually leading to further and further pastures.

 

[Shant]

I think you should be a little easier on yourself and consider that fault and responsibility may not be the same thing. Good luck.

This. It's nice that you're accepting that some of this is your fault, but take care that you mean this in a neutral point-of-view; and not because you're quick to blame yourself out of self-hate or something. For example, if you always feel ashamed of yourself, it might be easier to blame yourself for everything, but even more difficult than normal to do something about it.

That's step one. The other step and the most difficult of the two; doing something about it.