Just another online crush?

[mimi1119]

I recently found my old friend (a guy) from high school in facebook.
I had a crush on him when I was a HS student, but I was too shy and
I never asked him out.
I moved back to my own country (Japan) before finishing HS,
so nothing happened between us.
But since we found ourselves in facebook, we've been chatting a lot.
And I just found out that he had a crush on me too.
It was so sad to find out in our mid 30's that we both liked each other...
We could have dated...
We are now both married and have children.
And we are miles and miles away.
So there is no hope that this will become a relationship.
But I think about him all the time...

He wants to see me and I am planning to visit him in few years.
But I'm afraid that this is just another online crush for him and
if we really meet he might not like me as he does now...
I wanna tell him that I still like him but I don't know if it's a appropriate thing to do...
What should I do?

 

[Luke1993]

The question is, would you rather be with him or your husband and kids?

 

[Harleyq]

Honestly, I think you're living in the past. You seem to be dreaming of what might have been and I think that curiosity is exciting because how often do people get a second chance at these kind of things? I know I would be excited.

Do you love your husband? If you do, I don't think it's worth pursuing an old high school crush. Like you said, you don't even know if things would ever work out and your husband and kids would be really hurt if you did anything with this guy.

 

[mimi1119]

I love my husband and my children.
I could never leave them and I know this whole crush thing is just for temporary.
But right now I keep thinking about him...

Yes, maybe I'm living in the past... I was so bored with my everyday life
and then this thing came up. He kept telling me that I'm his type
so I got kinda excited. (like you said.)
I won't do anything awkward with this guy but is it so bad to fancy about it?

 

[Harleyq]

won't do anything awkward with this guy but is it so bad to fancy about it?

Nah, everyone fantasizes. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and good self control so I don't see anything wrong. I would just be wary of having really flirtatious conversations over facebook or wherever, if I were you, because again, if your husband sees it he'd probably feel hurt. As long as there's no double fantasy life that you're sneaking off to fulfill in lieu of your real life, I don't think there's a problem.

 

[Hellhound]

What should you do? Think about your family before taking any decision. You have a family now and they love you a lot, it's not like you are alone or being treated badly, why would you go to see someone else? I don't think it's right.