Is this normal behaviour?

[j_brown2]

this is a weird one, but I need to know the answer. I think something is wrong with me... Does anyone else when he just masturbated or had sex feel completely turned off by woman then, like if you just had sex you would in a moment tell the girl to leave or you would leave in a moment coz you feel discusted... It's really weird I think if a girl would touch me after Iam done I would throw her against a wall... well not really, I guess I got anger issues, but have no idea what could make me feel so disgusted and angry after having sex, I can't stand the woman later, I just have to leave or she has to, otherwise Iam gona do something crazy

 

[lettypagb]

Do you have sex? Wow

 

[j_brown2]

Yea, yesterday night a onenight thing with a girl I chatted on a dating site for a while

I always felt like this when masturbating, I was always disgusted by the woman in pornos as soon as I was done... same yesterday, I just had to leave, I couldn't stand the girl anymore, so it got me worrying... it's cool now again though

I just find it weird... the girl seemed so cheap in my eyes when we were done that I couldn't stand her anymore, all respect I had, everything was just gone

 

[lettypagb]

oh so you dont really care about the girl when you finish so is not so bad you were like h that cheap stupid bitch ,lol i dont even know what im talkin about ............

 

[SickJoke]

Yea, yesterday night a onenight thing with a girl I chatted on a dating site for a while

I always felt like this when masturbating, I was always disgusted by the woman in pornos as soon as I was done... same yesterday, I just had to leave, I couldn't stand the girl anymore, so it got me worrying... it's cool now again though

I just find it weird... the girl seemed so cheap in my eyes when we were done that I couldn't stand her anymore, all respect I had, everything was just gone

I can't say for sure, but this would be my educated guess:

You valued and respected her because she had something you wanted. Once you had your way with her, you were satisfied; you didn't need her anymore, so she no longer had any value for you. Now that some time has passed, your sex drive is powerful again, so once again she has value to offer.

 

[lettypagb]

sick joe is my hero

 

[j_brown2]

Ha no, I think it's worse, she was very hot and I feel so lucky that I had a chance... it's like everything came together right, she was hot, she studied psychology, has a young brother who has SA and was very nice.... but me later just felt so disgusted her by her, I had no respect anymore, nothing

It doesn't matter if it was a onetime thing or not, I know I would this if she were my gf... coz Iam like this all the time, even when I masturbate, I got to turn off the porn in a sec when Iam done

Maybe sex seems wrong to my mind, maybe it's guilt I duno

 

[SickJoke]

Maybe sex seems wrong to my mind, maybe it's guilt I duno

Well does it seem wrong in your mind?

 

[j_brown2]

I can't say for sure, but this would be my educated guess:

You valued and respected her because she had something you wanted. Once you had your way with her, you were satisfied; you didn't need her anymore, so she no longer had any value for you. Now that some time has passed, your sex drive is powerful again, so once again she has value to offer.

I thought of that.. but I think it's a bit extreme that I can't even stand her anymore and must leave,

 

[SickJoke]

I thought of that.. but I think it's a bit extreme that I can't even stand her anymore and must leave,

It might be a deep rooted issue in your view of women. Is it possible that you see them as merely sex objects? So when you want sex, women are valuable; when you don't want sex, they're worthless?

 

[j_brown2]

Well does it seem wrong in your mind?

Not right now, but once I was done it all seemed all wrong yea, the woman disgusting despite being very pretty, and I regret having sex with her for some reason... she just seemed so cheap in my eyes that I can't describe it... I think my issue is that she wanted to have sex, I looked at her like she is a whore and wanted to smack her for having sex with me... na it must be something with me and Iam just putting my anger on her... I guess sex seems wrong to me but I got no idea why it just seems so whenever Iam done doing it, I get this feelings and thoughts

 

[SickJoke]

Not right now, but once I was done it all seemed all wrong yea, the woman disgusting despite being very pretty, and I regret having sex with her for some reason... she just seemed so cheap in my eyes that I can't describe it... I think my issue is that she wanted to have sex, I looked at her like she is a whore and wanted to smack her for having sex with me... na it must be something with me and Iam just putting my angerbout on her... I guess sex seems wrong to me but I got no idea why it just seems so whenever Iam done doing it, I get this feelings and thoughts

It seems like you're disgusted with women for having sex - you consider her a whore for having sex with you.

Before and during sex, you don't worry about any of that because the instinctual drive for sex is too powerful. But afterwards, when your sex drive is satisfied, your logic is back in control of your brain.

So the question is, why do you consider her a whore for having sex with you? Do you feel like you're not worthy, so any girl who has sex with you is a whore? Or is it even more general: do you think any woman who has sex with anyone is a whore, except maybe after marriage or on some other moral standard that you've decided?

 

[j_brown2]

It might be a deep rooted issue in your view of women. Is it possible that you see them as merely sex objects? So when you want sex, women are valuable; when you don't want sex, they're worthless?

No I like women, I don't see all women as cheap after I had sex,just the one I had it with, and it doesn't last that long for some hours, like when I want it again she seems good again lol that's really weird

It's horrible the feelings I have after I done it, Iam sure if she were drowning or hanging down a cliff I wouldn't help her, I wouldn't be able to make myself do it

It's true I guess I just see sex in women, nothing else,

 

[j_brown2]

It seems like you're disgusted with women for having sex - you consider her a whore for having sex with you.

Before and during sex, you don't worry about any of that because the instinctual drive for sex is too powerful. But afterwards, when your sex drive is satisfied, your logic is back in control of your brain.

So the question is, why do you consider her a whore for having sex with you? Do you feel like you're not worthy, so any girl who has sex with you is a whore? Or is it even more general: do you think any woman who has sex with anyone is a whore, except maybe after marriage or on some other moral standard that you've decided?

I see the girl than as a poor little addicted to sex piece of shit... Excuse my language but that's what I would tell her, ifvshe would touch me in that moment I would throw her against a wall... maybe I feel used, and just see her as she wanted just sex from me and doesn't care about me, that could be it

 

[SickJoke]

sick joke is my hero

Hahaha, thanks

 

[SickJoke]

I see the girl than as a poor little addicted to sex piece of shit... Excuse my language but that's what I would tell her, ifvshe would touch me in that moment I would throw her against a wall... maybe I feel used, and just see her as she wanted just sex from me and doesn't care about me, that could be it

Yeah I can see how that could make sense. You feel like she just wanted to have sex with you. Why couldn't it be more than that? Do you feel like there's no way she would actually love you?

 

[Remus]

It's the classic "sex without love" scenario, you must be an old romantic at heart Mr Brown

"sex without love is an empty feeling but as empty feelings go....it's one of the best! "
Woody Allen

 

[j_brown2]

Yeah I can see how that could make sense. You feel like she just wanted to have sex with you. Why couldn't it be more than that? Do you feel like there's no way she would actually love you?

That's one thing, but as I said if I watch porn Iam disgusted by the woman in it as soon as Iam done lol... I think Iam like lonelylooser who sees women who wanna have sex as WRONG. I see them as disgusting animals, but when Iam in need they seem good, like you said the power of the sexual drive or what ever it was takes over

Of corse she could, but even if we were in a relationship I would be disgusted by her the moment after we had sex or maybe not, I duno. sorry to keep jumping all around about what it could be

Love does seem alot more important to me than sex, I thought having sex is the best feeling in the world but it ain't, it's being in love

 

[SickJoke]

I think Iam like lonelylooser who sees women who wanna have sex as WRONG. I see them as disgusting animals, but when Iam in need they seem good, like you said the power of the sexual drive or what ever it was takes over

OK then we've pinpointed the issue. The next question is, why do you think:

women who wanna have sex as WRONG. I see them as disgusting animals

 

[j_brown2]

OK then we've pinpointed the issue. The next question is, why do you think:

That's really hard to answer... selfisness just comes up lol selfish woman who just wanna have sex coz of their own needs

I can imagine though having some hot passionate sex with a woman Iam in love, maybe that's why pornos get such a turn off the moment Iam done, meaningless empty sex like disgusting