aloserfish
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I've been trying out strategy a recently--eliminate all negative thoughts whenever I get them. It might sound kind of cliche, but actually I've found it a lot more doable than trying to "be positive."
Being positive, as in, actually forcing yourself to have positive thoughts, doesn't work for me because there's some part that knows I'm being artificial and grossly feel-goody. But eliminating negative thoughts (just cutting them off as soon as they start to develop and thinking about, oh I don't know platypuses instead) seems to work. I don't feel as bad as I used to about social things. But do I feel better about them? I'm not so sure.
I think eventually I might. Cutting out the negativity could be a path toward positive thinking, and becoming comfortable with yourself. And being comfortable with yourself is probably the key to social success. I just haven't gotten there yet. Seems like it might be a bit of a long, curvy road but hey, it only ends once. Anything that happens before that is just progress. So I'm gonna chalk this up to progress and see where it goes.
Anyone else have a similar experience?
Being positive, as in, actually forcing yourself to have positive thoughts, doesn't work for me because there's some part that knows I'm being artificial and grossly feel-goody. But eliminating negative thoughts (just cutting them off as soon as they start to develop and thinking about, oh I don't know platypuses instead) seems to work. I don't feel as bad as I used to about social things. But do I feel better about them? I'm not so sure.
I think eventually I might. Cutting out the negativity could be a path toward positive thinking, and becoming comfortable with yourself. And being comfortable with yourself is probably the key to social success. I just haven't gotten there yet. Seems like it might be a bit of a long, curvy road but hey, it only ends once. Anything that happens before that is just progress. So I'm gonna chalk this up to progress and see where it goes.
Anyone else have a similar experience?