Incompatible Labidos

[crankitup]

Just wondering how others may have dealt with a partner that has an incompatible libido. Sex was never really an issue for me until I got into a relationship, then I found I really liked it and can't get enough of it. I find myself wanting to be adventurous with it, Turns out I have quite a high libido and my girlfriend is quite low. I've thought about seeing a doctor to try and suppress my drive but maybe that's a bit extreme. I refuse to pressure my girlfriend into anything.
Any Ideas?

 

[Iluv]

I guess you guys just need to work around each other. I know it can be something that can be annoying but maybe learn to find things that will change the thought of it. Sex isn't that important in a relationship, it's just an additional . If you really love her then you guys can make it work.

 

[crankitup]

I guess you guys just need to work around each other. I know it can be something that can be annoying but maybe learn to find things that will change the thought of it. Sex isn't that important in a relationship, it's just an additional . If you really love her then you guys can make it work.

Yes I wouldn't say it's hindering our relationship at all. It's mostly a nagging itch for me that keeps appearing. If i can find away to suppress it in my own head I think that would be the easiest solution.

 

[coyote]

...Sex isn't that important in a relationship, it's just an additional...

this depends entirely on the individuals involved

for some people, it IS very important - for others not so much

the important thing is that both partners are able to reach an agreement that is mutually satisfying

 

[Porto]

That's just human nature. Some people have more, some don't. The best thing is just be honest with your partner about that. And get to find the better way to go trough. Only both of u can find a way out.


About importance of sex. Tell that to a porno star! Or to all the infedilities in the world...

 

[SelfHater]

Sorry, I think sex compatibility is very important. I was once that understanding nice guy. Over time though those "no's" add up. You will feel rejected and it will drive your anxiety up.

Talk to her about it. There are many people that just do not feel the need for sex. My wife is one of those. Turns out we had sex before marriage to make me happy. Years later my drive is still high and she could not care less.

Check out talkaboutmarriage forum. A lot of suffering over this.

The fact you were thinking about seeing a doctor makes me believe that you already think there is something wrong with you.

YOU ARE FINE

There is also women that feel unloved because there partners libido is low.

 

[Nanita]

Sex is very important to me too. I have been in a couple of relationships where I was needing more of it than the partner needed/was able to give. And I found it hard to "compromise".

 

[Iluv]

for some people, it IS very important - for others not so much

I agree, most people do find it overly important. But since his girlfriend lacks interest in it, it seems they are both on the opposite ends of the spectrum. You have to meet at a middle point.

 

[KiaKaha]

My libido fluctuates...and was very low at one point but it is a lot better now. I have had women break up with me because of a low libido... they interpreted it as rejection.... so yes... I understand how an incompatible libido can be a problem.

 

[kilojoule]

All 'parts' of a relationship are important. I think sexual compatibility is as important as anything else in a relationship.

 

[crankitup]

Hmm still not sure what this means for a solution. I don't really think it's possible to bring her closer to my drive and I don't really think that would be fair to her. I prefer it to be my problem only. Sex to me is fun and makes me feel good, kinda like some exciting thrill. I don't see it as anything dirty or taboo. Just like your both going on a thrill ride together or something and nothing to feel guilty about. She just doesn't like those kind of thrill rides. So i need to find some way to deal with that.

One thing that is annoying me is how our western society sees sex. It's like this big dirty word.