Lucia
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On my first visit to my doctor, he told me I was too pretty and too smart to have any 'real' problems. Over the past 2 years he's given me a few more choice pieces of advice. Because of my anxiety, switching doctors is so difficult for me, but I wish I would have done so anyway.
Today, my doctor pushed me over the edge. He told me I have no reason to just be sitting at home, not working. He said it was time for me to grow up. Then he said this must be a result of me being spoiled as a child. I explained I wasn't spoiled, we were very poor and I was expected to work on the neighbor's farm in exchange for food. He said I must be very angry at my parents for me to punish them by sitting at home now. I told him I wasn't angry at all. I felt I had a good childhood and didn't resent them at all.
Then he went off on me for having a fiance who is 14 years younger than me (somehow I wonder if I were a male, if I wouldn't have gotten a pat on the back instead.) He said that since my fiance doesn't help me, I need to get rid of him. I said, "He's dying from cancer and Lou Gherig's disease. I had a few good years with him before he got sick and now I'm supposed to kick him out?" He said yes.
He also said I should stop helping my dad, my fiance and my child (who's 8 and autistic) and just concentrate on myself. ???
Then he berated me for homeschooling my child. My kid was in 6 different schools over the past 6 years (even though we never moved, the school district moved him), and out of those 6 years, children and youth services contacted me 4 years in a row about the teachers abusing him! (He still has scars.) Plus he tested at below a kindergarten level when he was in the 2nd grade, and now that I've been homeschooling him, he's at a 4th grade level in some areas. How could this be a 'wrong' decision?
I'm sorry to vent. I'd really like to report my doctor, but I'm not sure if this is inappropriate behavior on his part, or he's just rude and stupid. Then, I'm not even sure who I'd report him to.
My father is in the hospital dying, my fiance has 2 years at most to live, my mother's waiting for a lung transplant (which they said it is likely she'll die before she gets it) and I just try so hard to take care of my autistic son. I don't expect daisies in life, but I think most people would break under the stress I'm under. I don't see why my doctor keeps dismissing my illness and saying I'm just lazy. (Honestly, one of the first things people always say about me is how hard working I am.) I'm so angry. It's no wonder I lock myself in my house.
Today, my doctor pushed me over the edge. He told me I have no reason to just be sitting at home, not working. He said it was time for me to grow up. Then he said this must be a result of me being spoiled as a child. I explained I wasn't spoiled, we were very poor and I was expected to work on the neighbor's farm in exchange for food. He said I must be very angry at my parents for me to punish them by sitting at home now. I told him I wasn't angry at all. I felt I had a good childhood and didn't resent them at all.
Then he went off on me for having a fiance who is 14 years younger than me (somehow I wonder if I were a male, if I wouldn't have gotten a pat on the back instead.) He said that since my fiance doesn't help me, I need to get rid of him. I said, "He's dying from cancer and Lou Gherig's disease. I had a few good years with him before he got sick and now I'm supposed to kick him out?" He said yes.
He also said I should stop helping my dad, my fiance and my child (who's 8 and autistic) and just concentrate on myself. ???
Then he berated me for homeschooling my child. My kid was in 6 different schools over the past 6 years (even though we never moved, the school district moved him), and out of those 6 years, children and youth services contacted me 4 years in a row about the teachers abusing him! (He still has scars.) Plus he tested at below a kindergarten level when he was in the 2nd grade, and now that I've been homeschooling him, he's at a 4th grade level in some areas. How could this be a 'wrong' decision?
I'm sorry to vent. I'd really like to report my doctor, but I'm not sure if this is inappropriate behavior on his part, or he's just rude and stupid. Then, I'm not even sure who I'd report him to.
My father is in the hospital dying, my fiance has 2 years at most to live, my mother's waiting for a lung transplant (which they said it is likely she'll die before she gets it) and I just try so hard to take care of my autistic son. I don't expect daisies in life, but I think most people would break under the stress I'm under. I don't see why my doctor keeps dismissing my illness and saying I'm just lazy. (Honestly, one of the first things people always say about me is how hard working I am.) I'm so angry. It's no wonder I lock myself in my house.