"I'm not good enough..." Feel this way?

[Dronee]

(Find it difficult to talk about myself in thread)
Edited:

Ok... Does anyone feel this way? Especially when someone they're interested in shows some interest back? "If she knew that I'm lazy, without a good career... etc... she would go away..." or ... "somehow it'll never work out?"

I hope you know what I mean. Like... she is beautiful or has a masters.. or something like that... or it's just that she's normal and...

 

[hangbi92]

I think I know what you mean. It's because of our low self-esteem. I have those thought too when a girl shows interests in me. "She is normal and I am... not normal, when she finds out she will leave me."
But I think you are a person with a great personalities. U have a beautiful inner, thats the important thing. If the girl shows interests in you and u have feeling for her, I think u should take the chance. 'Cause there are not many chances like that in life, and Im sure u dont want to live lonely the rest of your life.
I myself have lost some chances. If I continue like this maybe I never get a girlfriend.
I know its better said than done, but thats what I think u should do, even though if Im in ur shoes I think I probably miss the chance

 

[Dronee]

I think I know what you mean. It's because of our low self-esteem. I have those thought too when a girl shows interests in me. "She is normal and I am... not normal, when she finds out she will leave me."
But I think you are a person with a great personalities. U have a beautiful inner, thats the important thing. If the girl shows interests in you and u have feeling for her, I think u should take the chance. 'Cause there are not many chances like that in life, and Im sure u dont want to live lonely the rest of your life.
I myself have lost some chances. If I continue like this maybe I never get a girlfriend.
I know its better said than done, but thats what I think u should do, even though if Im in ur shoes I think I probably miss the chance

Hey thanks! But there's the career thing and all... Honestly, which girl would want a guy with a low income, unstable job? I've chronic insomnia and other problems. I've tried many normal jobs... just doesn't work out because I can literally not sleep for days and even weeks... I believe that I can eventually succeed but.. yeah. It'll take a lot of time.

Yeah... I hear you on the lost chances part! Definitely. Hope it goes well for you eventually!

 

[BlueDays]

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[Dronee]

Yes. I am sure many people with SA have had thoughts that they are not good enough for a certain person they're interested in. Then have these insecure thoughts end up preventing them from getting to know someone better.
The trick is to figure out how to overcome the insecure thoughts about yourself!?

Isn't it valid if the woman has a masters and I'm just someone with no stable job? I AM trying to do what I can with the limitations I have... but I feel that the gap is very large.

 

[hangbi92]

Hey thanks! But there's the career thing and all... Honestly, which girl would want a guy with a low income, unstable job? I've chronic insomnia and other problems. I've tried many normal jobs... just doesn't work out because I can literally not sleep for days and even weeks... I believe that I can eventually succeed but.. yeah. It'll take a lot of time.

Yeah... I hear you on the lost chances part! Definitely. Hope it goes well for you eventually!

That sounds a difficult situation
But I think u should talk to her and tell her ur problem
If she is a good person who can sympathize with ur bipolar (I remember u said u have it ), maybe she will accept it and help u overcome it. Somedays ago in this forum there was a man who were willing to do anything for his depressed girlfriend 'cause he truly loved her.
And if she leaves u, then she's simply not the woman for u. U can live the life of a loner, u still have hobbies like arts and many things. And maybe u still have me as a friend 'cause I may become a loner too But honestly, I hope that wont happen to both of us ::
Anyway, I think it worth tryin'. "It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return . But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel." Its a quote I saw on my friend's Facebook homepage
This is just what I think. I know that if it is me, Im sure I will remain silent (so weird)
And excuse me for my bad english

 

[Eam]

Yep I've had the feeling that I'd only have a negative impact for quite a while now and that I'm not good enough. I've told myself I'd be more serious about seeking a relationship once it subsided, but I'm starting to think that it never will go away.

 

[shore_of_glass]

I always think like that. Specially because of the difference between those of my age and me: Everyone has it's driving license, I don't. Everyone has a bank account, I don't. And then the same story over and over, "I don't go to parties, I don't have many friends, etc".

hence thinking that I won't have the slightest shot with most, or all of the women I meet.

 

[Hadron]

Yes. My one and only concern though is the fact that I have no social skills whatsoever and I'm rubbish at communicating with people. Everything else about myself I'm fine with.(minus the fact that I'm also not very proud of my family )

 

[mrb]

its how you get on as a couple , money or education doesnt come into it , it all depends on the person your seeing really , some people want an educated person , some people just want a person they can enjoy having a laugh with , money or education it seems to me dont come into a relationship , not really sometimes yes , but as a 45 year old male iv come to learn it doesnt really matter what you have , its just how you make your other half feel

 

[DanFC]

That's what's always running through my mind. It's not even my career path or anything external like that, I always tell myself that I as a person am not good enough; that my personality's is dry and barely existent, that I wouldn't be able to make anybody else happy, that I am basically the person who nobody would want to, and rightly so, be around. Alas, this is all likely more true than not.

 

[Going Insane]

All the time...

 

[Ignace]

Yeah, It's always like that and it's soo intimidating ..