i'm frustrated

hey,

i quit school, so today everyday i lie in bed til 2 pm
i wake up late
i computer all day
and that's what my life consists about

once a week i have a singing lesson

and thats all.

I feel like i wanna do something bad to myself, i don't wanna live this life..i am NOTHING..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I M SOO MAD!!!!
 

jaim38

Well-known member
I think what you need is motivation. I say, start by finding hobbies you like doing, and consider turning some of them into possible careers. The library is a good place to start. I found my passion in IT after lingering there for almost everyday and reading IT books. Plus, it's quiet and a good environment for social phobics!
 

nothingmuch

Active member
Hi, Falkor. I don't know your situation, but I get really depressed when I've been unemployed and staying at home too much. Even working at home makes me depressed. Maybe there is a volunteer job to keep you busy? I hope you feel better.
 

Ithior

Well-known member
I was in that spot some months ago, and I'm slightly better now. I had finished my degree and I was supposed to look for a job, but nothing really interested me. I kept checking for new jobs online everyday, but I never found anything I liked. I was only getting out of the house to go to the gym twice a week. I was sleeping 10 hours a day and sleeping any less would make me feel really sleepy before dinner.

Now I found something to do. I'm still coming out of that situation though. I still spend all day at home but now I'm actually doing something, not just wasting time on the computer. I started having online classes in physics and chemistry and will soon start psychology and biology, even though my degree is completely unrelated to all that. It simply fills up some of my time, it's interesting and it gives me a reason to wake up in the morning. I'm sleeping 7~8 hours a day now and I feel much better than when I slept 10.

I think I already found out what I want to do for a living, but I still have to get the courage to go out and try it. Until then, I'll keep myself busy with things I find interesting instead of wasting all my time on the computer.

So I think you should keep your mind busy with something. It doesn't have to occupy all your day, but it should take at least a couple of hours a day. Not doing anything turns into boredom and boredom turns into depression. So focus on something. It doesn't have to be outdoors if you can't do it. It can be indoors or even on the computer, as long as you're focusing on a particular activity. Volunteering seems like a good option according to many people here.
 

Steiner

Well-known member
I've been doing this lately except omit the singing lesson. Hope you find something in your life. I would avoid harming yourself. Try to find the strength not to. Unlike myself.
 

goblin

Well-known member
I think there are few things that can make someone feel as terrible and as quickly as sitting on the computer all day. It's a free, abundant, convenient time-waster that I'm all too familiar with, but it is what it is. Logging off at the end of the day is like waking up from a dream you're not sure was good or bad and finding you've lost 12 hours. Do yourself a favor and fill at least a few hours with anything else, no matter how trivial.
 
I'm somewhat frustrated as well lately (having these strange urges to hot/smash stuff, which i never act upon).

My current life is "4-to-4" (I arise at ~4pm ... watch tv & use computer ... retire at ~4am ... get to sleep ~6am ... awake at ~2pm ... arise at ~4pm --> reapet)

Some days are okay, others are hell. But i thnk generally, like with yuo, i am struggling to find the "right balance" for my life. I have various "needs", most of them not being met (due to various complex reasons, mainly due to beliefs & emotional). The trick is to find adequate substitions for those needs that aren't "correctly" being met. And also trying to find a moderation of sorts, as immoderation can wreak havoc with one's health.
 
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