I would like to tell everyone

[missjesss]

That social anxiety can be beaten after listening to peoples personal stories and battles on youtube I was amazed at the SUCCESS they all had!

I feel I'm changing dramatically also as there was one point in my life when I thought I had beaten it and I came of medication because the "symptoms" were gone however I still felt a whole inside of me and I never addressed the actual issues as to why i was feeling like that!

It has finally hit me our beliefs, evaluation and negative thinking is really what keeps us stuck in the vicious circle so we must change our thought process and we must change our mindset when handling these so called "fearful" situations.

I will admit I have good days and bad, the thing I have learnt to do now is just accept my anxiety and never judge or evaluate myself on my so called social performance because that is absolute rubbish WE ARE ALLOWED TO MAKE MISTAKES and no one is perfect instead what you do is let go of the social encounter do not rethink or relive it just get over it and move forward if you have a bad day with your anxiety don't beat yourself up over it actually compliment yourself for trying and tell yourself you have had good days where it wasn't a problem etc

I am starting to see things differently now I also read from a guys success story in London that he threw himself out there he went on a holiday with his friend to another country and forced himself to socialize.

Now I must admit I can see where he was coming from because when I went on my holiday to Europe I was far more outgoing and I actually asked a guy for his number etc do you know why CONFIDENCE so to everyone on this site you must learn to believe in yourself and fully accept everything about yourself ! don't blame your family or bullies anymore forget them and move forward and fix yourself

missjess

 

[just wanna b normal]

this is nothing new to me i know what you talking about. i think we all worry too much constant worrying gets you nowhere. *hint* anxiety. yes along with negative thinking over thinking caring what people think.

 

[missjesss]

well have you actually put it into practice?

I went to the shops today completely anxiety free and I spoke to a few ppl

 

[Hastings & Main]

I think you're on the right track. In building confidence you start out walking on pebbles, and will end up stepping over mountains.

Expect a landslide along the way, but you learn to just get over it.
Sooner than you realize, you'll stare back at your old self and think, "Who the hell was that?"

 

[missjesss]

Hastings & Main

EXACTLY ! well you see before if I had a bad day or a setback I would dwell on it and criticize myself for it or for not acting the way I "should have" etc

Now I simply compliment myself for trying and I get over alot quicker I'm pleased with my results I even managed to go out with my work crew for lunch and gave my input more then usual and I made jokes at one point during the lunch I noticed some ppl watching me then I felt that anxiety but I managed to diffuse it and focus back on just being with my work crew today has been a major success also I went to the shops full of people I barely noticed ppl watching me I felt natural walking around I conversed with the checkout staff and asked what there plans were for xmas I laughed ! and felt I could be myself there was a little anxiety when they asked me questions but it all went well

 

[Aussie_Lad]

It really is all about mindset you are right. I discover that when I am staying outside the city, in a nice peaceful location, and my job is almost a million miles away, I can totally relax and be myself. When that happens I can get chatting to shop workers etc, and would consider myself to be quite a normal happy person. When I go back to the city, it feels like the energy drains from me, and I can't get much enjoyment out of life, and my social life is reflected in this.

 

[missjesss]

Aussie_Lad

It sounds like maybe you want to get away from the big city and fair enough if your not a city sort of person, in my case I used to love going shopping and big crowds like the royal show etc I was a bit of a thrill seeker until the feelings of feeling **** about myself fully took over every part of my life ;-( well I won't let them anymore

just after listening to former sufferers of s.a and how they succeeded gives me hope and motivation I do also believe in fish oils and vitamin b12 !! big difference in maintaining your moods ;-) I think the perfect thing for me would be to go on another holiday and this time have the new mindset that I have ! which I didn't use on my last holiday