i tend to panic about events ahead of time...

[BC-chick]

Whenever there is an event coming up, like my bf's baby nephew's birthday is this summer and it's only March and I am freaking out about it. Off course they haven't even said if there's going to be a party even but come on off course there's going to be a bday party for this kid. His family is so large and there going to be everyone there including people i havent seen before. they will probably dance and do all that party stuff singing etc. i can't handle all of that and I don't know what to do about events like that. maybe i should just get drunk whenever i go to parties (parties happen only 2-3 times a year) also when i say get drunk i dont mean totally drunk, just buzzed so i don't panic while i am there. i don't know what my question is hmm, do you guys ever feel this way?

 

[montejocarlo]

I do feel a little nervous before and during such occasions. It's usually not that bad though. And, more often than not, I don't attend gatherings when it's not a necessity. lol.

 

[BC-chick]

but with me.. if i dont go to his nephews party it will look bad.also i tend to make excuses like i was sick or busy..

 

[montejocarlo]

but with me.. if i dont go to his nephews party it will look bad.also i tend to make excuses like i was sick or busy..

Yeah, I think you should go. But try forgetting about it for a while. I mean, it's going to happen anyway. Worry about it or not, it's gonna come.

What's the worst thing that can happen: Fall on your face while dancing? Spill some juice? Make a silly commentary? When you come right down to it, they're not really that bad. You'd still be alive after. My worst experience probably was when I had to emcee the event myself. It was horrible in so many ways. Not to mention the fact that I didn't have prior experience in that field. It was an on the spot decision made by the host of the party- totally unexpected. I was sure I looked stupid. Then again, I got out of the party alive and unscathed, so it mustn't really be that bad. If you're not emceeing, I'm sure you'll be fine. Or even if you are, you'll still be fine.

 

[slapstick]

For sure I so do that...especially if it involves me sleeping together with people I dont know that well...that came out wrong lol I mean like for example..My friend and I were at a park kicking a soccer ball around when we saw these guys playin soccer and asked if we could join in there friendly match..They invited us back for the next game and so it went on. Months pass playing with these guys and am getting used to playing these guys they invite my friend and I to take a trip with them to a big soccer tournament held in a different city. I immediately went in2 panic mode and was already planning my bailout speech by the time they asked If I could make it lol I would of had to sleep in a hotel with these guys and I barely knew them..imagine my SP flaring up??

 

[outsideroftheoutsiders]

Definitely. I think a lot of my anxiety is anticipatory.

 

[LadyWench]

All the time. On Sunday, I was invited to my aunt's house for a dinner thing. My cousin just moved back into town with his new wife, and she wanted everyone to get to know her better and stuff. I was dreading it and was extremely nervous. It ended up being an okay time, but I was very anxious about it. I do this frequently, so you are definitely not alone. In fact, I also worry about things that haven't even happened. My mind is full of "what ifs" and it never stops. Just try to tell yourself that it won't be as bad as you're imagining, and you have a lot of time to prepare yourself. Maybe you could take a book with you, music (iPod, MP3 player, etc.), or something that will distract yourself from the anxiety. Sorry I'm not very helpful. Just thought I'd let you know that I can totally relate to your feelings on the matter.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I do much better on the way there-- if I'm told I'm going an hour or so in advance. Then I don't have time to panic and worry about every little thing...
until I get there.
haha

It's the 'anticipatory anxiety', I think.
That can really do some damage.