I Never Had A Girlfriend And I Don't Know Why

alexjames2320

alexjames2320

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Hey Guys i'm Alex and i'm 18 i play basketball for a professional team here in Greece my problem and something that really makes me sad is that i never had a girlfriend i don't know the reason why and that makes me really sad in my life i think im really cool a funny guy and i have a lot of friends here and also most of them are girls but i never talked to any of them i liked cause i was very shy its maybe cause before some time i had something with a girl we cant call it relationship because it wasn't that think she said she liked me a lot but then the next 2 days when all seemed to be good she said to me that she doesn't even want to be with me and that she was just playing! that made me really sad and from then i felt really shy with most of girls and i felt like no one likes for who i am its really bad for me to watch couples every day and to know that i never had a girlfriend! i don't know if i look bad or anything but i just need somebody to be with her cause or love and respect and nothing more.... Please guys tell what should i do! those are some of my photos i wanna see your opinion. http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]
http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]
http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]
 
reslo

reslo

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hi, welcome to the forums!

"but then the next 2 days when all seemed to be good she said to me that she doesn't even want to be with me and that she was just playing! "

ooooo, you got rejected. and you haven't healed. sorry you got your heart stomped on! recognize that not all women are like that!

as far as looks go- that's never the reason a person is single. belive me, there are plenty of ugly, happily married couples.

18 is still young!

(and the links don't seem to work, but feel free to ask your friends/teamates why they think you're single and you might be surprised at what they say)
 
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reslo said:
as far as looks go- that's never the reason a person is single. belive me, there are plenty of ugly, happily married couples.
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Haha, this made me chuckle.

But yeah welcome! Im sure your looks are fine. Social anxiety itself is a big enough hurdle to relationships alone. Whether it be simple friendships to something romantic.
 
Nyxy

Nyxy

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The links don't work for me either. And by the way, you aren't alone with not having a significant other for a long period. Just go with the flow and you'll find yourself a chickie. ::p: I did not have a boyfriend until I was 19 when I just started college, and I'm quite certain looks had nothing to do with it - just being extremely shy really deterred so many people from even forming a friendship with me.
 
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w*n*c*a*m

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You just didn't find the right one yet. You were just unlucky enough to have met a beeeyaaatch. But I'm sure not all girls are like that. Just be patient. I'm sure you'll meet her soon.
 
LifeInternal88

LifeInternal88

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This is not really advice. But relationships seem come when you least expect them. When you are living your life, happy and positive. But when you are desperately searching, they just don't come.

18 is young (sorry, you probably don't want to hear that), so don't feel bad.

Is there someone you like right now? Or do you just want A girlfriend (any)?
 
Invisibleman

Invisibleman

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PipsMcClawski said:
Thats what everyone keeps saying. Still not quite sure how that works.
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Indeed. Honestly ive been told different things by everybody. Ive been told the whole stop looking thing and then ive been told that you have to look. Im going out on a limb and im going to say that love comes when you stop looking is bollocks. I mean honestly the only people ive ever heard tell me that you have to stop looking are in their 40s and single so...yeah.
 
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Invisibleman said:
Indeed. Honestly ive been told different things by everybody. Ive been told the whole stop looking thing and then ive been told that you have to look. Im going out on a limb and im going to say that love comes when you stop looking is bollocks. I mean honestly the only people ive ever heard tell me that you have to stop looking are in their 40s and single so...yeah.
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Ive stopped looking too, but not because Im finally at peace but because Im currently seeing Palmela Handerson.
 
Pyrophosphate

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Invisibleman said:
Indeed. Honestly ive been told different things by everybody. Ive been told the whole stop looking thing and then ive been told that you have to look. Im going out on a limb and im going to say that love comes when you stop looking is bollocks. I mean honestly the only people ive ever heard tell me that you have to stop looking are in their 40s and single so...yeah.
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I'm only 19 and single and I said that.

What I meant was that what you should be looking for is a friend who happens to be a girl (rather than someone specifically to be your girlfriend), then go from there.
 
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w*n*c*a*m

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Pyrophosphate said:
I'm only 19 and single and I said that.

What I meant was that what you should be looking for is a friend who happens to be a girl (rather than someone specifically to be your girlfriend), then go from there.
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I agree... you start building friendship first... and I'm not single.
 
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AGR

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PipsMcClawski said:
Thats what everyone keeps saying. Still not quite sure how that works.
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That only works for good looking people,not uglies like me,lol.

Yes sometimes it does seems like something is missing,reasons I dont have a girlfriend-seems like most girls are cheaters, they react on emotions,what they are feeling at a certain time,are promiscuous,I dont want to be just another one and like guys who are not good,I have to respect and trust her so no thanks,other reason is that I dont know how to start something or I am afraid,dont put myself out there,I only have a few female friends.
 
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Olhos Abertos said:
That only works for good looking people,not uglies like me,lol.
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I dunno, I think Im ok looking for a guy. What it comes down to is Im expected to approach women first and my fear of rejection makes that a rare occurrence. I only had a girl come on to me one time, but she had some weird black dude fetish and was pretty much sleeping with everyone I knew, my room mate included.

LifeInternal88 said:
haha

Just take it by faith....Don't worry about the 'how' part (for now).

Believe PipsMcClawski, believe :D
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Lol Im just gonna focus on my school and whatever happens happens :) Plus I realize I come off as desperate which send up red flags for a lot of people which is the last thing I wanna do.
 
alexjames2320

alexjames2320

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Wow Its Awesome Guys thank you all for your help im really happy i have someone to help me or give me advice... well i have to say that its really bad that i see guys that they play the "Cool Ones" all day and they dont even do anything and the girls like them... i never wanted a girl to make fun with her i just want someone to fell good with! but i dont understand girls... :/ i really like a girl now we speak and things but she said she doesnt wanna do a relationship she only wants to have something like fun also.... and i said no i dont wanna do something for fun only i wanna make something serious and something that will last honestly im tired of girls here they are so annoying i cant say im perfect or anything but at least i have feelings and i never hurt someone

Flickr: alexjames2320's Photostream this is me if you can see the link now....
 
Nanita

Nanita

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Hi Alex
Are u greek.. (Or just on the team, in Greece) ?

I lived in Greece for a while and I have a greek boyfriend now.
When I lived there, it was difficult fo me to figure out unwritten social habbits/rules.. I didnt really make any friends. I got tired of people behaving in a way I couldnt understand.. Several times I made plans with people to do something together, and usually people just forgot about it , didnt show up. And the next time I saw people, after they didnt show up, they would ask me to make plans again about visiting or going out together... and then the same thing would happen..
I found it very strange...

So anyway, I cant give u advice I guess :) I saw your picture and I think u look very good. But as other people mentioned, looks doesnt have much to do with getting a partner.
I hope u will find what u are looking for.
 
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