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Yep that's the way it goes. Lots of the idiots seem to do well in that way half the time.
But remember having a well paid job and being married is only the version of success which in this kind of society we get told is the only one, but its not. I wouldn't see those things as success for myself. They can just end up being enslaving. To me success would be being able to do what I enjoy doing, which in my case would be playing music, and be able to survive.
But remember having a well paid job and being married is only the version of success which in this kind of society we get told is the only one, but its not. I wouldn't see those things as success for myself. They can just end up being enslaving. To me success would be being able to do what I enjoy doing, which in my case would be playing music, and be able to survive.
Well, wasn't that expected? While you were busy sustaining your reclusion, they were meeting new people, doing new things, improving themselves and their lives. The apparent differences are logical.
However, you are trying to compare people of a fundamentally differing kind. Your condition is not theirs. You are fighting a wholly different evil. Your frontiers are much more demanding than theirs. It is unreasonable to compare.
That the assholes married is absolutely clear. You have no idea whatsoever how happy or content they actually are with their seemingly wonderful lives. You can only see the superficial shell that they shield themselves with against social categorization.
I am not bashing you or telling you that it's all your fault and you could change it at will. Rather the opposite. Namely that you have it much harder than "them" and hence might need longer. The eventual outcome is still open and unknown for all of us.
However, you are trying to compare people of a fundamentally differing kind. Your condition is not theirs. You are fighting a wholly different evil. Your frontiers are much more demanding than theirs. It is unreasonable to compare.
That the assholes married is absolutely clear. You have no idea whatsoever how happy or content they actually are with their seemingly wonderful lives. You can only see the superficial shell that they shield themselves with against social categorization.
I am not bashing you or telling you that it's all your fault and you could change it at will. Rather the opposite. Namely that you have it much harder than "them" and hence might need longer. The eventual outcome is still open and unknown for all of us.
Anubis
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You're angry because you desperately want the objects of pleasure everyone else seems to have.
Marriage - a societal object of conformity and stability, and not to mention love. All pleasurable.
Jobs (Teachers, Lawyers, Doctors) - societal titles that bring about pleasure in the form of money and success.
Fame - societal titles that bring about pleasure in the form of recognition and monetary goods.
The belief you have is that by having all these objects, you can be happy. The truth of the matter is that the people you talk about who have all of these objects are STILL facing many problems. Some may be married, but have to deal with an incessantly alcoholic partner or child who stresses them dearly. Some may have a job of high-repute, but must sacrifice weeks or months without seeing the family. They're not not necessarily happy at all. And it is actually more likely that they are not happy - especially in today's media-soaked society that stresses impossibly high standards of materialistic mastery.
Objects don't confer true and lasting happiness. Being satisfied with what you have is what confers happiness.
Marriage - a societal object of conformity and stability, and not to mention love. All pleasurable.
Jobs (Teachers, Lawyers, Doctors) - societal titles that bring about pleasure in the form of money and success.
Fame - societal titles that bring about pleasure in the form of recognition and monetary goods.
The belief you have is that by having all these objects, you can be happy. The truth of the matter is that the people you talk about who have all of these objects are STILL facing many problems. Some may be married, but have to deal with an incessantly alcoholic partner or child who stresses them dearly. Some may have a job of high-repute, but must sacrifice weeks or months without seeing the family. They're not not necessarily happy at all. And it is actually more likely that they are not happy - especially in today's media-soaked society that stresses impossibly high standards of materialistic mastery.
Objects don't confer true and lasting happiness. Being satisfied with what you have is what confers happiness.
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madmike
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Annoying isn't it?
I have a facebook and i get it all the time. People i know, even those that i considered below me (lol) with lots of friends, girlfriends and an active social life. I'm 20 so no one's really married yet, but i can see it coming soon.
I really don't know why i keep a facebook. It just fills me with jealousy
I have a facebook and i get it all the time. People i know, even those that i considered below me (lol) with lots of friends, girlfriends and an active social life. I'm 20 so no one's really married yet, but i can see it coming soon.
I really don't know why i keep a facebook. It just fills me with jealousy
I actually met my best friend from school last October big mistake I had been dreaming and wandering for years what he was upto and i spoke to him on facebook we went out for a drink but it wasn't right he could barley remember me he had a totally different attitude and although we had a good laugh it shoul'dn't have happened all the good memories I had of us hanging out as teenagers were spoiled by the reunion. We haven't contacted each other since.
Annoying isn't it?
I have a facebook and i get it all the time. People i know, even those that i considered below me (lol) with lots of friends, girlfriends and an active social life. I'm 20 so no one's really married yet, but i can see it coming soon.
I really don't know why i keep a facebook. It just fills me with jealousy
I don't have a facebook, I just don't have anyone to put on it, and really, I don't want to look up long lost classmates/friends and see how successful they all are. I am also around your age, and I can see how everyone ard me are having gfs/bfs except me, for now, since I am still young, I can just brush it off when people ask me why I'm not attached by saying I haven't met the right person, but I wonder how I can still do that a few years down the road when I'll be in my mid 20s
And oh, I know how well everyone is getting on because I check their accounts, a mental torture I know, I get all depressed and upset after I do that, and yet I can't help myself sometimes and still do it.I had a best friend too since ard age 11 or 12, and right up till 16 we were best buddies, I even ostrasize my other good buddy for her because she influenced me, but then, she went to college and became this hip social person and we just didnt have that much to say to each other anymore, she wanted to hang out with her new cool friends. In fact, I actually saw her twice while out and had to quickly turn away and pretend I didn't see her to avoid having to greet her and ask how her life had turned out, and her life did turn out well.
InDeepshit
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i checked facebook with the intention of contacting highschool classmates but looking through their profiles was heart wrenching. I cringed looking through their photo albums it was so depressing. Realistically i'll never connect with these people anyway.. they never liked me much in highschool and on rare occasions when i'm invited out by an old friend it's horribly akward.
Apple Strudel
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They are always together so it's no surprising. They are like one big group and I can't be bothered already because in the near future, i'm still going to experience these kind of things again...like history repeated itself.
Unless my SA disappear, there's no way I could cut into other people's life
Unless my SA disappear, there's no way I could cut into other people's life