Anubis
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Remember when you were a little kid and your parents gave you a teddy bear (or another toy) to calm you down? Kinda like this (I remember mine vividly):
Some of you may have felt an overwhelming sense of security while hugging your bear. In fact, some of you may have felt SO so secure that you were able to do a lot of brave things while in the presence of your bear. You could, for example, get a flu shot or eat some disgusting vegetable as long as you had that bear wrapped around your arm. Overall, you just felt like you were on top of the world with that teddy bear, even though you were scared ****less for most of your youth.
Now ... flash-forward 5-10 years, and some of us become extremely confident and defiantly take on the world ... for no apparent reason. Others, however, regress and live a life of avoidance. These people report that they never feel a refuge of security so they never feel safe enough to try new things.
MAYBE..and I'm just brain-storming ... the only difference between the confident ones and the scared ones is that the confident ones were somehow able to internalize that "teddy bear" in their adult psyche while the scared ones couldn't. For example, maybe it is so entrenched in their memory that the mere thought of psychological refuge is able to placate them enough to be brave.
I am still thinking about it, lol, but I found it quite interesting that the concept of emotional security may have touched our lives a lot earlier than most of us seem to think.
Edit: Maybe some of us avoidant individuals trade in our bears (or toys) for the computer? I can certainly say I feel a weird calm while using my computer. However, as you know, it is stationary item which restricts movement and doesn't seem to be practical for ushering in refuge while operating in the real world.
Some of you may have felt an overwhelming sense of security while hugging your bear. In fact, some of you may have felt SO so secure that you were able to do a lot of brave things while in the presence of your bear. You could, for example, get a flu shot or eat some disgusting vegetable as long as you had that bear wrapped around your arm. Overall, you just felt like you were on top of the world with that teddy bear, even though you were scared ****less for most of your youth.
Now ... flash-forward 5-10 years, and some of us become extremely confident and defiantly take on the world ... for no apparent reason. Others, however, regress and live a life of avoidance. These people report that they never feel a refuge of security so they never feel safe enough to try new things.
MAYBE..and I'm just brain-storming ... the only difference between the confident ones and the scared ones is that the confident ones were somehow able to internalize that "teddy bear" in their adult psyche while the scared ones couldn't. For example, maybe it is so entrenched in their memory that the mere thought of psychological refuge is able to placate them enough to be brave.
I am still thinking about it, lol, but I found it quite interesting that the concept of emotional security may have touched our lives a lot earlier than most of us seem to think.
Edit: Maybe some of us avoidant individuals trade in our bears (or toys) for the computer? I can certainly say I feel a weird calm while using my computer. However, as you know, it is stationary item which restricts movement and doesn't seem to be practical for ushering in refuge while operating in the real world.
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) that I took in with me when I got a tonsillectomy, the doctor put a gas mask on him and everything for me, and when I woke up he had a bandaid on his neck, haha. 