I have a teenager... congrats?!

[Ryan12]

Hi. I am new. My name is Ryan, from NJ. I am nearly 37. Anyway...I just found out about a month ago, I have a 16 year old daughter. She is now gonna live with me, as things with her mom are not good and she has no other family really.

Anyway...she is probably gonna be a typical teen and have alot of friends over etc and wonder why I don't have a TV in my home. Just a ton of books. I don't like the idea of people over at my house unless they are family. I'm kinda unsure how to tell this young woman I barely know, that I have social issues and her "Dad" is a bit of a abnormal dude.

I also was wondering... at my age, this is very unusual I know, but I do not like sex. I have only had sex with 2 women in my life, her mom and some random bar pick up. I really like this beautiful woman I know but I can't get close to her, I am really uneasy about intimacy with others. Any one else over 30, or who is male, not a fan of sex? Or am I just really weird?

 

[crazycatlady27]

congrat on the teenager lol and good luck !!!
i personally think you need to tell her your social issues so she knows straight away that she cant have loads of friends round, and maybe after she is settled in you could let her have one friend round for an hour and see how you cope or react
good luck xxx

 

[coyote]

i can't see how anything could possible go wrong

good luck!

 

[gustavofring]

I can't imagine what that must be like, having your daughter you've only known you had for a month move in or from her side moving in with your dad you never knew.

It sounds like a scenario for some kind of quirky feel good movie.

 

[Ryan12]

I know. I offered to let her live with me, its a complicated situation on her end and I just wanted to be good,maybe its a bad idea to have her move in?

 

[gustavofring]

I didn't want to discourage you. To offer her a home and provide for her in dire times is very kind and responsible of you. I hope it works out. :thumbup:

 

[crazycatlady27]

speak to her first about your social anxiety before she moves in that way she gets a choice on weather she wants to move in. if you let her know what you can handle and what you cant and you never know she might agree to it all and be fine with it, but unless you talk to her you will never know

 

[Hoppy]

I can think that was a bit of a shock. I would like to know if she is going to separate all ties with her mother, because then you will be stuck with her (meant in a nice way of course.)

Good thing, two years and she will be old enough to move out.
Bad thing, this is a teenage girl you don't know much about.

I would recommend sitting down with her, and having a meeting about what you will expect from each other, will be difficult, but essential.

Good luck anyway, it sounds like a very nice adventure.

 

[Littlewilly]

Rather u than me,
good luck.mg: