i don't like college

[LazyHermitCrab]

I finally transferred to a university... yay i thought this mean giant lecture halls so there would be too many people to possibly do all this group work and presentations. Well no i got my syllabus today and it says there will be presentations, games, and pick your partner essay paper. I'm laughing out loud in disbelief right now. This sounds like the worst possible class syllabus I could read. It's like a bad dream, but it's real. Another class I took off was to make a video of yourself! Yeah right. Well luckily I replaced that one but this class sucks too maybe even more. I just want to take all online classes or just simply go in for a lecture and leave!! This thread is meant to complain and hopefully get support with ppl who dealt with this... thank you.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

College was really tough for me. But, it was also where I met all my current friends-and they're great. Some advice: Join a club. Start an SA club! If you find someone nice in class, ask them if they want to meet in the library to study.

 

[Jere]

I'll be going to college soon... Stop scaring me ;-;

 

[IntheLabyrinth]

I thought the same thing, and was also unpleasantly surprised to learn of all the group work. Luckily, my major didn't have too much of the group work or presentations. It was still hell when I had to do it and I had a few moments of sheer terror that was very noticeable, but I made it through it. I had a few teachers that I talked to about having SA, and they allowed me to do a paper in lieu of the presentation. Make sure to talk to the teachers early in the semester though. I also told the groups about SA and they were always sympathetic, which made it a little more bearable.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

College was really tough for me. But, it was also where I met all my current friends-and they're great. Some advice: Join a club. Start an SA club! If you find someone nice in class, ask them if they want to meet in the library to study.

I'm glad you got to meet friends! I don't think i can handle joining a club right now lol. Did you meet your friends in class, the club, or both?

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I'll be going to college soon... Stop scaring me ;-;

Sorry it might depend on your major. good luck

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I thought the same thing, and was also unpleasantly surprised to learn of all the group work. Luckily, my major didn't have too much of the group work or presentations. It was still hell when I had to do it and I had a few moments of sheer terror that was very noticeable, but I made it through it. I had a few teachers that I talked to about having SA, and they allowed me to do a paper in lieu of the presentation. Make sure to talk to the teachers early in the semester though. I also told the groups about SA and they were always sympathetic, which made it a little more bearable.

It seems really brave you were able to open up to them about it. I never went to a psychologist so i don't have a doctors note and i have avpd i think. I'm just kinda doing this college stuff and messing up but i just want college to be done asap. What was your major btw?

 

[jaim38]

I had horrible experiences in college. I didn't fit in anywhere. In my classes, I was bullied and harassed. I had to drop out, transfer, then drop out again. I'm now back at home taking online classes. It's so much better now. I feel like I developed ptsd from going to college, but those memories are gradually fading away and haunting me less with each passing day.

I don't like giving presentations or working in groups, but I have to do it. Even in online classes, I get nervous working in groups. I worked in a group once and the leader wanted to talk to me by phone so I had to call him and talk to him. I was so ineloquent it's just weird. I ended up texting him more than calling him. The final presentation was weird. We did an audio presentation and I read everything off a script. It was so unnatural. And I spoke with the other group members in broken sentences.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

I'm glad you got to meet friends! I don't think i can handle joining a club right now lol. Did you meet your friends in class, the club, or both?

I made friends in class. But, the ones that stuck with me after college I met in a "club". More like a Fraternity but without the craziness and drinking.
In class, if I was sitting next to someone nice and we had a few pleasant exchanges, I would ask them if they wanted to study together. They always said yes.

 

[Lamb]

I had horrible experiences in college. I didn't fit in anywhere. In my classes, I was bullied and harassed. I had to drop out, transfer, then drop out again. I'm now back at home taking online classes. It's so much better now. I feel like I developed ptsd from going to college, but those memories are gradually fading away and haunting me less with each passing day.

Bullied in college? That's terrifying me.

LazyHermitCrab, I suggest letting your professors know as well if you think the group work is going to affect your grade. Some of them will take it into consideration. Sounds like a good challenge though.
I would've been laughing too out of fear. Perhaps you can try befriending the people sitting next to you, or get a feel for personalities when people participate and go from there.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I made friends in class. But, the ones that stuck with me after college I met in a "club". More like a Fraternity but without the craziness and drinking.
In class, if I was sitting next to someone nice and we had a few pleasant exchanges, I would ask them if they wanted to study together. They always said yes.

Was it a SA club? That's nice you asked if you wanted to study together. I'll try to get the courage if i feel a friendship connection with someone but it's so hard to do.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I had horrible experiences in college. I didn't fit in anywhere. In my classes, I was bullied and harassed. I had to drop out, transfer, then drop out again. I'm now back at home taking online classes. It's so much better now. I feel like I developed ptsd from going to college, but those memories are gradually fading away and haunting me less with each passing day.

I don't like giving presentations or working in groups, but I have to do it. Even in online classes, I get nervous working in groups. I worked in a group once and the leader wanted to talk to me by phone so I had to call him and talk to him. I was so ineloquent it's just weird. I ended up texting him more than calling him. The final presentation was weird. We did an audio presentation and I read everything off a script. It was so unnatural. And I spoke with the other group members in broken sentences.

I'm sorry about the bullying in college. People should be more mature then. Were you a freshman?

Hm well texting seems like it would be an advantage so your group member can remember everything you said. I don't get as nervous about talking to people online nearly as much as in real life if i don't know them. I got 2 online classes now added to my schedule so i feel lots better too

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Bullied in college? That's terrifying me.

LazyHermitCrab, I suggest letting your professors know as well if you think the group work is going to affect your grade. Some of them will take it into consideration. Sounds like a good challenge though.
I would've been laughing too out of fear. Perhaps you can try befriending the people sitting next to you, or get a feel for personalities when people participate and go from there.

Thanks for your advice. I think since i have 2 online classes and 2 in person classes i'm gonna gather the courage to go in once to get a feel for the people. If i get a really bad feeling i'll try to exchange the class if possible. If i can't i'll just try to do it anyway since it will be hard to avoid any group activites until i graduate. It's just that i would like to get a feel for the place without having to deal with group mumbojumbo on top of it for the first transfer semester. I might just be making up excuses but haha.. lol.