I am unloveable

[unwanted]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHY27VVaCv8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeYypU9K-...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TrtzZSrxR...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPurAGRoK...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOnTNOEb4...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=msspIGztG...re=related

*sigh*

I guess I reach a point in my life where I just know that I am unlovable, and though I won't give up, like I said before my chance with a girl is so slim. I know this is pathetic but this was what I been doing for this whole week. I don't even sleep at night now as I spent from 12am to 7am being pathetic and crying and stuff. I go crazy, sometime banging my head against the wall, or I just lied flat down until I can't feel any air into my lung before I rise up, sort of like suffocating myself. And sleeping on my bed is too wet, I need to wash my pillow and comforter there just way too much tear on it, but most of the time I just sit in one corner put on my hood even if it 95 degree in my room and suffering in silence.

Aren't those video simply beautiful?

here my pic:
http://s279.photobucket.com/albums/kk130...to49-1.jpg

 

[Depressed4life]

Dude, no one in this world is unloveable seriously. I have seen inmature people, jerks, drug dealers, thugs, rapist and so many people get girlfriends or boyfriends so you are not the exception. I will suggest you to stop constantly thinking of wanting a girlfriend because loves comes when you least expected. I was once desperate to get someone because i was 14 and a sophomore in HS while everyone around me had a bf and i didn't. I ended up with guys who just wanted to use me for sex, i know that they weren't treating me right but i was so desperate and i had such low self steem that i didn't care. It was really hard learning that i was just being used because i am a virgin and because i have a "curvy body" or whatever so seriously wait. Don't be stupid like me, your time will come as lame as it sounds. Now i have a boyfriend that treats me like a princess and i wasn't expecting to meet him.
Sorry for writing a novel but i wanted to make my point. Take Care.

 

[Jotun]

Dude I know how you feel. The loneliness of it all is just maddening. But you can't keep it up. If you want to begin to feel better about yourself you have to change. If you want help I'd recommend any books by Micheal Pilinski. I could email some of them if you wanted to.

 

[SocialButterSlip]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHY27VVaCv8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeYypU9K-...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TrtzZSrxR...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPurAGRoK...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOnTNOEb4...re=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=msspIGztG...re=related

*sigh*

I guess I reach a point in my life where I just know that I am unlovable, and though I won't give up, like I said before my chance with a girl is so slim. I know this is pathetic but this was what I been doing for this whole week. I don't even sleep at night now as I spent from 12am to 7am being pathetic and crying and stuff. I go crazy, sometime banging my head against the wall, or I just lied flat down until I can't feel any air into my lung before I rise up, sort of like suffocating myself. And sleeping on my bed is too wet, I need to wash my pillow and comforter there just way too much tear on it, but most of the time I just sit in one corner put on my hood even if it 95 degree in my room and suffering in silence.

Aren't those video simply beautiful?

here my pic:
http://s279.photobucket.com/albums/kk130...to49-1.jpg

dude... whats with the videos lol, i feel the same, but then i saw the post depressed for life wrote and is true even serial killers got gf. ^_^
btw just remembered this fact my grandfather was a rapist, and a murderer, and he's greatly loved, don't ask me i hate his guts and i have his name as a second name how fuked is that eh.

 

[unwanted]

Sometime I wish I knew what to do. I'm ugly and weird looking and no girl will fall for that. Anyway even my parents hate me, actually they hate each other as well, so quite frankly well I don't know where I belong. I walk the lonely road everyday and I keep telling myself it has to stop, but when and how?

 

[Satine]

How? I can offer a few pointers. Go find yourself a glass of water and come back to the computer, babe. Take a drink while you're reading.

Okay, now you're back, I'll tell you what the situation is with what you have to offer girls. I'm going to tell you a little about humankind's history, and the implications it has for male/female relations in the modern day:

Australopithecus came down from the trees approx. 20 million years ago. When she came down she was still quadrupedal. But her new environment prompted her to stand on two feet and become bipedal. That is when our reproductive life become more complicated than almost any other animal.

You see, up until then, when we had had bodies used to walking on all fours, breeding was easy: the male mounted the female and got his behavioural reward (physical pleasure) and his penis rubbed against the right part of the female to offer her a behavioural reward (also physical pleasure).

But when we stood upright, the internal part of the female that was supposed to be stimulated on mating gravitated away from its quadrupedal position, and she no longer got a behavioural reward for mating. The male, however, still wanted his behavioural reward, but when he tried to mate with her, she would kick and scream and try to push him away. His only option, if he still wanted his reward, was to rape her, and afterwards, she would run away and cry.

Obviously this was an unpleasant situation for her, but it was also for him, too. Humans are, and were at the time, a compulsively sociable species, and he didn't like seeing her upset any more than she liked being maltreated. Eventually he learned that, the best way to get her to accept to mate, was to link the idea of mating with other pleasurable sociable activities. In effect, he was saying to her, "don't think of me as your enemy, think of me as your friend, your son, your parent, your siblings. Trust me."

This is how he did it: he looked at each interaction between animals in their social group and he treated her in the same way. A mother will give her infant food, so he offered her food. Juveniles run and laugh and go on adventures together, so he spent this quality time with her and played games. Two friends would groom eachother, so he took to grooming her, too.

And so on. And it remains similar to this day.

So what you need to do is simply be her friend, her offspring, her parent, her playmate, just as other people are to eachother. You have endless amounts of inspiration all around you. I understand that you are nervous of these interactions, but there is nothing quite like going ahead and doing something to make you realise that you could do it all along.

A girl will be charmed if you do these things; they are all you'll ever need.

EDIT: And remember, girls aren't an alien species - we're human beings as well. We're surprisingly like you guys. So don't worry on that front either!

 

[coriander1992]

How? I can offer a few pointers. Go find yourself a glass of water and come back to the computer, babe. Take a drink while you're reading.

Okay, now you're back, I'll tell you what the situation is with what you have to offer girls. I'm going to tell you a little about humankind's history, and the implications it has for male/female relations in the modern day:

Australopithecus came down from the trees approx. 20 million years ago. When she came down she was still quadrupedal. But her new environment prompted her to stand on two feet and become bipedal. That is when our reproductive life become more complicated than almost any other animal.

You see, up until then, when we had had bodies used to walking on all fours, breeding was easy: the male mounted the female and got his behavioural reward (physical pleasure) and his penis rubbed against the right part of the female to offer her a behavioural reward (also physical pleasure).

But when we stood upright, the internal part of the female that was supposed to be stimulated on mating gravitated away from its quadrupedal position, and she no longer got a behavioural reward for mating. The male, however, still wanted his behavioural reward, but when he tried to mate with her, she would kick and scream and try to push him away. His only option, if he still wanted his reward, was to rape her, and afterwards, she would run away and cry.

Obviously this was an unpleasant situation for her, but it was also for him, too. Humans are, and were at the time, a compulsively sociable species, and he didn't like seeing her upset any more than she liked being maltreated. Eventually he learned that, the best way to get her to accept to mate, was to link the idea of mating with other pleasurable sociable activities. In effect, he was saying to her, "don't think of me as your enemy, think of me as your friend, your son, your parent, your siblings. Trust me."

This is how he did it: he looked at each interaction between animals in their social group and he treated her in the same way. A mother will give her infant food, so he offered her food. Juveniles run and laugh and go on adventures together, so he spent this quality time with her and played games. Two friends would groom eachother, so he took to grooming her, too.

And so on. And it remains similar to this day.

So what you need to do is simply be her friend, her offspring, her parent, her playmate, just as other people are to eachother. You have endless amounts of inspiration all around you. I understand that you are nervous of these interactions, but there is nothing quite like going ahead and doing something to make you realise that you could do it all along.

A girl will be charmed if you do these things; they are all you'll ever need.

EDIT: And remember, girls aren't an alien species - we're human beings as well. We're surprisingly like you guys. So don't worry on that front either!

Sound advice there!

 

[Argamemnon]

And remember, girls aren't an alien species - we're human beings as well.

Really?

 

[Outshined]

^ :lol:



..I don't think anyone is unlovable. I have a hard time accepting myself, and after a while of putting myself down for it that's when I begin to think things like I'm worthless, unlovable, etc. You are your own biggest critic. If you can't accept and love yourself, you'll come off to others as distant, shut off, insecure, or pissed off. And that's where the problem stems from. Would you be attracted to someone who was like that all the time? That's how I see it anyways

 

[Marie_knowsbestt]

its a fact that atleast one person had thought about you at some point today, and woundered 'i wounder what their up to right now?'. just because someone doesnt tell you they love you, doesnt mean they dont love you. i nver say say i love you to anyone, but out of everyone i know i am the most loving person. point is that no one is unloveable, because its human nature to lvove.