How well do you deal with rejection?

[WishingICould]

I don't deal with rejection very well at all. Even if it's something minor, like somebody not replying to an email. I take everything personally and like it's a reflection of my worth (or lack of it). I'm so sick of my SA mind.

 

[planemo]

I don't deal with it well either, i'm afraid.

i've had internet "friends" just ignore me and not want to keep in contact with me anymore, for seemingly no reason. i took it really badly.

as you say it's a huge blow to self worth.

 

[FallenFeathers]

Rejection or even the perceived idea of rejection is still something I really struggle with. I know for a fact I am not rational when it comes to this, I actually can think I see in all sorts of places judgment or rejection when in reality there maybe isn't any.

So yeah in short I find it really hard to deal with, it doesn't matter if the rejection is maybe justified In say actual fact it being constructive criticism, something that isn't even there (Me jumping to conclusions and deciding what people thing despite y'know... not being telepathic )

I can't speak for everyone but yeah I think the real rejection is me judging myself, and until I can stop doing that I'm never going to fully get better. Rejection can be a sad reality, a lot of people are narrow minded and quick to put others down.. but I know people like that are maybe ignorant or even insecure themselves or even the fact I'm not going to be accepted by everyone and in every situation, so why do I let their opinions hold so much weight over mine?

But yeah sorry my TL;DR, I don't deal with it very well at all. I would probably say it's the major core issue of my anxiety.

 

[JustWannaLove]

I don't deal with rejection very well at all. Even if it's something minor, like somebody not replying to an email. I take everything personally and like it's a reflection of my worth (or lack of it). I'm so sick of my SA mind.

i feel rejected everyday by people in different ways. even strangers who dont matter but i still consider what they might think about me. every little thing affects me. and so far i have predicted that i dont belong and feel almost no self worth for myself.
i get my worth from the praise people give me for my art, and the crazy people who still consider me a friend despite me pushing them away and hiding away in fear of everything

Rejection or even the perceived idea of rejection is still something I really struggle with. I know for a fact I am not rational when it comes to this, I actually can think I see in all sorts of places judgment or rejection when in reality there maybe isn't any.

i agree with this statement. unfortunately for me, i feel like it happens so often in many forms its hard to think otherwise.

 

[FallenFeathers]

i agree with this statement. unfortunately for me, i feel like it happens so often in many forms its hard to think otherwise.

I really get it As rational as I try and be about it doesn't stop the fact I believe it's happening to me 100% at the time. Even with people I'm really close to and who go out of their way to spend time with me, deep down there's always this feeling that I am taking up their time or bugging them.. it's horrible.

I remember reading something about hypnotism, and how it wasn't always truly that effective.. because despite us being supposedly one of the smartest creatures about, were also one of the few if only one... who can't just process and store facts. We have to attach an opinion to something.. it has to meld with our pre-existing ideas... or we are likely to disregard that fact because it challenged too much of our core beliefs.

It was more a an article on why humans are so ready to kill each other over ideas and opinions, religion and the such and why we can become so incensed by people having different opinions, but yeah sorry for getting really deep lol, but I think it holds a lot of weight in these situations to

 

[WishingICould]

I really get it As rational as I try and be about it doesn't stop the fact I believe it's happening to me 100% at the time. Even with people I'm really close to and who go out of their way to spend time with me, deep down there's always this feeling that I am taking up their time or bugging them.. it's horrible.

That describes exactly how i feel. :sad:

 

[jaim38]

I can go from being fine to crying my heart out, depending on the severity and importance of the rejection. If I get rejected by something I don't care much about, such as a job that I don't like, then I have a better time dealing with the rejection. But if important people such as my friends or certain family members reject me, then I can have a harder time dealing with it. I also had a tough time dealing with rejection from past crushes, but that was the past.

 

[mikebird]

It does touch a very exposed nerve.

I react sensitively to any kind of rejection. It'll get worse.

I won't list any of the reasons for this now, because it goes on, but I'll start with the roots of it all, not the leaves, sprouting for anybody's little tiny trivial reasons to turn their back on you. eg... ooh! - there's a little hair out of place. Every action towards anyone is a win / lose for anyone

Judgement requires facts /evidence - not a meaningless assumption or whim

I haven't killed anyone. I haven't stolen anyone's possessions or their money, or had an affair with any of their wives. I used to smile when life was good.

Upside-down life. Ummm... I never reject anyone. I give 'em a chance. I make friends. Until someone decides to do the inverse to me.

I do have a blacklist in my address book now. That's waiting for action in forthcoming times. TBC

I think the reaction is either submission or to appeal against

Nobody deserves social refusal / abandonment / isolation.

Dog eat dog. Fish eat fish. Cats eat rodents and birds

This is the best quote:
"It was more a an article on why humans are so ready to kill each other over ideas and opinions, religion and the such and why we can become so incensed by people having different opinions, but yeah sorry for getting really deep lol, but I think it holds a lot of weight in these situations to "

 

[drganon]

I've never been rejected. Buts that only because I don't put myself out there to begin with. I just don't think I could handle the potential rejection.

 

[butterflydreams]

it used to be hard for me to accept when I was younger but now it doesn't really bother me much anymore.
I have accepted myself as a reject so gotta make the most of it I guess

 

[Hellhound]

At the moment I don't feel like caring too much about it.

 

[this_portrait]

I'm becoming more and more of a stone when it comes to rejection.

 

[BamanPiderman]

Very badly.

I got invited to go to a party recently but the host forgot to give me the time the party starts. I got pretty upset about it, I thought it was her way of saying she didn't actually want me to go. She sent me the time later, and I found out that she didn't invite some other people I thought were her friends, so I actually feel kinda good that she saw me as being important enough to be invited at all.

 

[Kiwong]

I have developed an abject fear of it.