EscapeArtist
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at first it felt extremely beneficial to revisit the past, I had been in denial about the loss of my friends, community, and family from a move from the US to Canada when I was 13 up until 3 years ago, so when I began to dig up the past, it seemed extremely beneficial. I was sorting out important emotions and getting to know myself again. I was taking ahold of the present at the same time.
But the present has not met the expectations that have been hightened by removing the denial of how much I miss my past. now I can't shake it. My only place of comfort is my past. I bury myself in a fantasy world of the 90s and all that it was for me. Movies from my childhood, music, everything, and this zone I hide in grows more and more. My beautiful life before the move and divorce of my family.
When I see what my present is I become very depressed and bitter. I can't have the things back that I had in my childhood. And so nothing seems worth anything in the present, these things are not important to me compared to what I feel I've lost. It comes to the point where I feel like I can't feel anything in the present. This is the main source of my depression. Relocation, divorce, loss of belonging and safety and person before age of 13. As if I was outlawed from the 'otherside' where people live in their belonging and childhood neighbourhoods, and I'm on the cold side where none of it can exist. Faulty thinking? probably
How to move on? Better yet, how do I keep my past with me as part of my identity and give it the value it deserves by seeing the present as EQUAL potential? I am so lost, really, I value every answer. Even google won't give me an answer.. Lol.. Concrete actions, to move the heck on... if you need more info i can give.
I don't want to let go... completely. I just want to feel as alive as I used to. I will do it for that. How do I let go.
But the present has not met the expectations that have been hightened by removing the denial of how much I miss my past. now I can't shake it. My only place of comfort is my past. I bury myself in a fantasy world of the 90s and all that it was for me. Movies from my childhood, music, everything, and this zone I hide in grows more and more. My beautiful life before the move and divorce of my family.
When I see what my present is I become very depressed and bitter. I can't have the things back that I had in my childhood. And so nothing seems worth anything in the present, these things are not important to me compared to what I feel I've lost. It comes to the point where I feel like I can't feel anything in the present. This is the main source of my depression. Relocation, divorce, loss of belonging and safety and person before age of 13. As if I was outlawed from the 'otherside' where people live in their belonging and childhood neighbourhoods, and I'm on the cold side where none of it can exist. Faulty thinking? probably
How to move on? Better yet, how do I keep my past with me as part of my identity and give it the value it deserves by seeing the present as EQUAL potential? I am so lost, really, I value every answer. Even google won't give me an answer.. Lol.. Concrete actions, to move the heck on... if you need more info i can give.
I don't want to let go... completely. I just want to feel as alive as I used to. I will do it for that. How do I let go.
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