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Just a video i stumbled upon, might be of some interest for some people here
How to Be More Confident, Letting Go && Being Tall - YouTube
How to Be More Confident, Letting Go && Being Tall - YouTube
Tell me something I don't know ,what do you do when you have irrational,uncontrollable fears?It takes more than words to let go and leave your fears behind.
Wikipedia said:Self-confidence does not necessarily imply 'self-belief' or a belief in one's ability to succeed. For instance, one may be inept at a particular sport or activity, but remain 'confident' in one's demeanor, simply because one does not place a great deal of emphasis on the outcome of the activity. When one does not dwell on negative consequences one can be more 'self-confident' because one is worrying far less about failure or the disapproval of others following potential failure. One is then more likely to focus on the actual situation which means that enjoyment and success in that situation is also more probable. Belief in one's abilities to perform an activity comes through successful experience and may add to, or consolidate, a general sense of self-confidence.*
When you dont have confidence - caring about what other people think and seeking validation from the outside is how you get by.
stopping caring about what other people think and stopping seeking validation from the outside is how you get confidence
Just looking at the girl standing there making a heart with her hands makes me not want to watch it. Yes, I'm being judgmental.
Its easy to say "dont care what other people think" or "live your life for yourself" which are all good sentiments obviously...but HOW?
I dont think anyone can completely stop caring about what people think of them anyway - but perhaps not placing so much importance on other peoples opinions is probably more realistic.