I feel like I'm getting more and more into a situation which I promised myself to never get into again.
I have a colleague, we have been in the same team since I joined the company in 2007. She's one of the few people at work, whom I feel most comfortable with, since she has SA too, or at least SA-like symptoms. We never really became friends, in the sense that we don't really talk or meet outside work, because... well, I don't really know how to connect with humans, especially with females, but I soon developed a crush on her, because she's beautiful and smart. She had a boyfriend, who also happened to be a colleague, and he also become a sort of friend too, so of course that ruled out anything, and I somehow managed to suppress my feelings.
But they broke up 1.5 years ago (after 10 years of being together), and the guy also left the company a week ago. During the past 1.5 year, we (me and the girl) chatted a bit more at work than before, but still nothing happened, and I kind of wanted to leave it that way, I already felt terrible because of this "you shouldn't meddle with your friend's ex" stuff.
But recently the feelings have returned, worse than ever. I am torn between trying to connect with her, and leaving her alone. We went to the movies a few times. We did this before with her boyfriend, the 3 of us, when they were still together, so this didn't feel like a very bad thing, we could do this as friends. I've also driven her to work and to home from work a few times, when our work schedules matched because she doesn't drive and doesn't like public transportation because of her SA.
I did these things because I enjoy spending time with her, but I shouldn't do this. Why be friends with your crush, when she doesn't feel that way. I'm pretty sure she doesn't. Sure it feels nice for those brief moments when we talk or go the movies, but then it's just pure torment.
I feel like I'm gonna do something stupid, like buying her a present for her birthday or something, but I don't want to be that guy who buys her stuff, becomes her bestest (sic!) friend just because I like her. You can't buy love and you can't make someone to love you. This I know. With my mind. The problem is with my heart.
I don't know why I wrote this down, maybe I thought I would feel a little bit better.
I have a colleague, we have been in the same team since I joined the company in 2007. She's one of the few people at work, whom I feel most comfortable with, since she has SA too, or at least SA-like symptoms. We never really became friends, in the sense that we don't really talk or meet outside work, because... well, I don't really know how to connect with humans, especially with females, but I soon developed a crush on her, because she's beautiful and smart. She had a boyfriend, who also happened to be a colleague, and he also become a sort of friend too, so of course that ruled out anything, and I somehow managed to suppress my feelings.
But they broke up 1.5 years ago (after 10 years of being together), and the guy also left the company a week ago. During the past 1.5 year, we (me and the girl) chatted a bit more at work than before, but still nothing happened, and I kind of wanted to leave it that way, I already felt terrible because of this "you shouldn't meddle with your friend's ex" stuff.
But recently the feelings have returned, worse than ever. I am torn between trying to connect with her, and leaving her alone. We went to the movies a few times. We did this before with her boyfriend, the 3 of us, when they were still together, so this didn't feel like a very bad thing, we could do this as friends. I've also driven her to work and to home from work a few times, when our work schedules matched because she doesn't drive and doesn't like public transportation because of her SA.
I did these things because I enjoy spending time with her, but I shouldn't do this. Why be friends with your crush, when she doesn't feel that way. I'm pretty sure she doesn't. Sure it feels nice for those brief moments when we talk or go the movies, but then it's just pure torment.
I feel like I'm gonna do something stupid, like buying her a present for her birthday or something, but I don't want to be that guy who buys her stuff, becomes her bestest (sic!) friend just because I like her. You can't buy love and you can't make someone to love you. This I know. With my mind. The problem is with my heart.
I don't know why I wrote this down, maybe I thought I would feel a little bit better.