How long you stay embarassed after an embarassing event?

[JonnyD]

(i realise the post name is kinda strange!)

Today i was going to lanch with my coworkers and i was talking with them, when i made a gesture opening my left arm and i hit a girl passing by, no a big deal , i barelly touched her. but that almost killed me!

I apologised and she continue walking, i was already totally blushed and totally tense , and my brain was in the "OMG mode" thinking lots of bad stuff, then my coworker started joking on it ,generally i'm very easy going and love to joke, but that was totally awkward and made everything worst in that specific moment!...

So the girl , from which a dont remember even the height, stopped in the street crossing and when i saw that i got totally freaked out! - in the "OMG mode" that like a invite to run away, guess what i did i just crossed the stupid road full of cars!

I almost killed myself because of nothing! and got even more embarassed ....

so i keep embarassed the whole afternoon, remembering how stupid i could be?


Do you ever felt like this, something happens and you keep that strange feelings for hours on?

 

[no1]

yeah it happens to me.

 

[joeljjison]

Yes. I get quite flustered, and then i can't stop worrying about it and beating myself up over it. When i was younger, and even now, my parents seem to look for weakness to criticize, and my own head does it too... it doesn't go away... well it does, but only when its not too big and i have no further contact with anyone involved

 

[ava]

Omg I get embarrased by THE smallest things... Whenever something embarrassing does happen I'll be kickin myself over it for AGES...I mean AGES....Things that have happened 2 or 3 years back still haunt me...How pathetic is that [/b]

 

[shygurl]

It amazes me that people have the same issues as me!! This is me totally, and it can take so long to get rid of these feelings. Can anyone tell me anything that works to stop feeling embarrassed?

 

[potency]

hah I can relate to this one. I can think about an embarrassing moment that happened years ago and I will sort of have a wave of embarrassment pass over me in that very moment. Weird huh?

 

[Ashiene]

I had a similar experience a couple of times before, involving different girls.

The girls and I were walking to school (i dont know them) and they started gesturing and talking to each other and one of their hands suddenly smacked into my private area as I walked by them. But the girl didnt seem embarrassed, just said sorry a few times and continued her conversation.

This happened 2-3 times with other girls too, but always at the same path to school. LoL.

Another time I was on the train and this pretty young girl sat beside me and dozed off, and her head kept leaning onto my shoulder for about 5 minutes (her hair was in my face!). Then I got kind of self-conscious so I just moved to another seat. lol.

But i dont remember feeling embarrassed, actually i was quite amused!

 

[Erdkunde]

lol. several years at least!

 

[hippiechild]

Omg I get embarrased by THE smallest things... Whenever something embarrassing does happen I'll be kickin myself over it for AGES...I mean AGES....Things that have happened 2 or 3 years back still haunt me...How pathetic is that [/b]

YES! I still cringe and talk to myself for things that I "messed up" when I was 10. There literally is no time limit for me.... and simply forgetting a word in a sentence is enough to leave me trembling...
I believe that I know how you feel, ava
I feel incredibly pathetic for it too

 

[Helyna]

(i realise the post name is kinda strange!)

Not at all.

Do you ever felt like this, something happens and you keep that strange feelings for hours on?

Try "days."

Eventually though, i just laugh about it.

Lucky you!

Omg I get embarrased by THE smallest things... Whenever something embarrassing does happen I'll be kickin myself over it for AGES...I mean AGES....Things that have happened 2 or 3 years back still haunt me...How pathetic is that

YES! I still cringe and talk to myself for things that I "messed up" when I was 10. There literally is no time limit for me....

Exactly!

 

[RedRibbons]

I think about, and feel bad.. about things.. for years.. It wears off though (from the initial uncomfortableness). I will get that really uncomfortable feeling whenever I get a flashback of it though.

 

[JonnyD]

I'm sensitive to little thigs too, like when i stutter when i'm explaining something i really feel bad the whole day.

i can totally relate with the "flashback embarassement". sometimes i remember things and i can feel almost as bad as in the very moment that happened.

there are memories from the 3 grade that i still feeling weird, strangelly there are some memories that made me feel bad last year that don't make me feel bad today.

you might call me crazy, but once i hit a friend of mine with a dictionary ( 8O ), i was in the fifth grade, that was the one most terrible thing i did at school... that haunted me until a couple of months when she talked to me, something totally unrelated , like that "hey, long time how is going?" talks... just noticed it. its like i've look for some kind of forgiveness all this years

 

[alwmt]

As others have said my embarrassment lasts for years.

 

[GKJB]

I always feel regret and embarassment for days after a night of being drunk, because I do stuff that I wouldn't normally have the confidence to do.

I went to a wedding last night and don't remember too much but today I feel terrible, not from a hangover, but from all the stupid crap I remember doing... I always end up asking for the girl with a boyfriend's number, and feel like a complete idiot when I've been working up the courage all night to ask for it

Embarassment about the big things lasts years for me too.

 

[livingnsilence]

I stay forever embarassed even though I think about it less with time. I remember, actually only partially remember, something I did when I was 9 before I had social anxiety that I wasn't embarassed by then or even for years but now I am and everytime I think about it I get embarassed.

 

[limetree]

I can only feel at most at peace if I know I'm never going to see that person again, although at my old school (last year) I was caught plagerising, got a massive lecture and it still makes me shudder to this day. You do think about it less with time unless new ones take to the fore.

I'm still embarrassed because my pdhpe teacher sniggered and called me "soft" for forging my no uniform note and this happened two weeks ago. It actually made me cry and now whenever something triggers the memory it's like I'm reliving that moment. I just tell myself to look towards the future, someday I'm going to leave school and never have to see his face again...

Anxiety makes me do lots of silly things, which make me feel embarrassed. For example going to the shop counter meaning to ask the cashier to exchange money but responding to slight gestures in my direction when he's obviously on the phone. I'm so reactive like that as if I'm trying to compensate for being too slow to respond while conversing or realise someone's talking to me.
I also shudder at the time I pronouned "sentient" wrong in front of this guy who is really smart, the list could go on... :S

I also get embarrassed often about my forum posts awhile afterwards.

 

[Azahara]

I often remember my embarrased situations for years. First, my mind usually goes round and round the situation for days or weeks, and then they arrive my mind again when a similar situation is going to take place. I think is a case of perfectionism.

One of my most embarrased moments I lived was many years ago when I have an appointment with a partner of my job. I thought I love him. Well, It was winter and I order a coffee. I was so nervous that when I was sitting down I spilt the cup of coffee over every where, my coat, the table, the floor. It was a terrible moment. But I´ve got many more.
For Jonny D: Don´t let your suffers grow. It´s only and advice, I have experienced many years of silence. Later is worse. It seens to me you´re very young. Accept my advice. I´ll give you in heart. :wink:
Sorry for this imprudence but I couldn´t see you anymore in the forum when I am. Don´t angry, but I have to say this to you.