How do you explain sa ?

[lettypagb]

yesturday somebody asked me that and i couldnt tell the person anything , and i know i have sa, but how does i explain that to a person ? thnks for the attention anyway ...

 

[stand_up]

Was the person someone close you know? Or someone you don't know too well?

 

[lettypagb]

i dont know the person , was my therapist ...
thanks for helping me

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

i dont know the person , was my therapist ...
thanks for helping me

Hang on... Your therapist asked you how to explain SA? I'm I reading that correctly?
First of all, did this person specify in what light he/she wants you to explain 'SA'? How it feels? How it works? The causes? The symptoms?

If it helps, there is - naturally - a wikipedia page on the subject. Social anxiety - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[doesit]

fear of others or what they think of you or the way they see you.Which comes from your head(brain) and you know its false feelings, but your body reacts different.should be right or try wikipedia.

 

[Queen_Of_Pain]

I just say "It means I'm not lucky enough to socialise like you can" or if they are really interested, I tell them to look it up. lol

 

[zlench]

The unability to have connections with the outside world. The fear of nothing but failure and being rejected.

 

[FOR REAL]

thats the thing, aint it, weve kept our side of the bargain. we have brought the illness to the doctors.
is it not about time the doctors got up off there arse and did a bit of curing!

 

[Lorraine Manca]

i guess the definition has something to do with fear of embarassment or scrutiny from others. Is that really true? It seems like a more fundamental disconnect between the inside and the outside. Or maybe its the inability to deceive. Like you cant take up a public face.

 

[Anubis]

the fear of not having control over social situations. Which is, in itself, an illogical proposition since no one really has control over social situations (we only have guaranteed control of ourselves). This is why a lot of us social phobes never get "cured". We want too much (basically, the uncontrollable) but we think we're only asking for the bare minimum. Perfect recipe for suffering.

 

[NothingElseMatters]

probably your therapist was trying to figure out how YOU see your sa.Cause there is some difference in how ppl see it.Y don't u give some situations tha happened in your life and had to do with sa?

 

[worrywort]

I have a couple of ways I explain it....usually I just tell them that in a nutshell whenever I'm around people I just have an irrational desire to get away from people, and it's hard to control sometimes.

But other times I explain it like this; imagine if you'd just heard some shocking news, i.e. a loved one had just passed away, and then you went to a dinner party. The emotional trauma would probably be on your mind all evening. The other guests may laugh and joke but you'll just smile along politely cause you don't really feel like laughing right now. Some guests may ask why you're so quiet this evening, but you might just hide it and shrug it off and just say you're tired or something.....and well, I feel like that pretty much all the time, like something terrible has happened, but if you asked me what was wrong, I could never actually point to any specific event. Everything in my life is fine, I just have this constant feeling like something terrible has happened.

 

[stand_up]

I think a lot of us are pretty much on the same wavelength here...
Since it's a therapist you are talking to,... at least you may have some feeling of security that a therapist respects your situation as that should be part of their role...

I would find it easier to describe it by giving past examples I've encountered and that are significant to me. That would probably give the therapist an idea of my "triggers".