Richey said:
I remember back in P.E class there were 2 team leaders that had to stand up and choose their first picks for players on the team and i was one of the best basketball players yet i was chosen last and that is one of the most humiliating moments i can recall because it happened alot, the leaders want to choose their friends and then the most popular people usually follow in that order ....
after a while i just stopped caring, and i dont think what happened to you is as bad as it looked to everyone else, you'd be surprised how often people get red-faced because what they think looked cheesy to people looking on didnt look even half as humiliating to them at all ...
did people walk over to you and laugh in your face, did they call you names and react to you?
dont let it phase you, try and erase it from your mind and move on will make you feel better
Yeah, Richey's right. You'll be surprised at how insecure other people are themselves. I always assume they're all judging me, and am completely surprised when they admit their insecurities. I mean, there
are some real a*holes out there, but in general, I think people are more tolerant than we give them credit for. I think I'm starting to believe this a little more, especially as I get older (well, 25) and everyone kind of matures. And if that girl likes you I seriously doubt she thought you were a loser.
I've had a hard time dealing with that kind of thing, which happened frequently. Your situation reminds me of my experiences in PE class from elementary through high school. Always the last to be picked because not only was I unpopular but also awful at anything athletic (though I've improved a little over time). I was continually embarrassed when I was the only one who could barely toss the football, etc., including the other girls. I think all of that played into my having SA. I don't have an easygoing personality where things roll off my back, and all that negative stuff gets under my skin and sticks. I guess this is where cognitive/behavioral techniques come in: challenge your fears with rational thoughts.
