I kinda have that fear also. But I would try not to think about it so much. The more you worry about saying things you think may be stupid, the more likely you really will say those things. Just try not to focus on that so much, ok?🙂
:perfect: ya i know but it's not easy. However i'm getting better exposing and talking with others. Shock therapy
I don't have a job and only have human contact once a week when I go shopping. Whenever people come to my door I turn the lights off and pretend I'm not in.
Aw. :sad: Why are you so afraid of people? What can a human do to you that is so scary?
The book of Psalms in the Old Testament of the Bible are mostly written by King David himself. In several chapters of Psalms he asks, "What can man do to me?" As if he is saying, "Yeah, bring it on, people! I ain't scared of ya'll! Cause I got God on my side!!"
Give your fears to The Lord and He shall vanquish every last one of them. 🙂
There are multiple openers you could use. Approaching a group you could say "how is everyone doing tonight?" An individual, "how is your night going?" I used that one on a girl at a bar once and it sounded natural and got her talking. those are very basic but can be effective because it sounds like you aren't trying too hard.
You could try a harmless opinion opener which works almost every time such as, "do you know where a good bar is around here?" Or you could say some other place like coffee shop, dance hall, restaurant, whatever. Anyone who doesn't answer that in a somewhat respectful manner is just rude and you don't want to talk them anyway.
My advice if you are just starting to approach, go as basic as possible. Keep it simple. Too much clutter in the mind before approaching can clog your mind and make you overthink.
There are multiple openers you could use. Approaching a group you could say "how is everyone doing tonight?" An individual, "how is your night going?" I used that one on a girl at a bar once and it sounded natural and got her talking. those are very basic but can be effective because it sounds like you aren't trying too hard.
You could try a harmless opinion opener which works almost every time such as, "do you know where a good bar is around here?" Or you could say some other place like coffee shop, dance hall, restaurant, whatever. Anyone who doesn't answer that in a somewhat respectful manner is just rude and you don't want to talk them anyway.
My advice if you are just starting to approach, go as basic as possible. Keep it simple. Too much clutter in the mind before approaching can clog your mind and make you overthink.
Aw. :sad: Why are you so afraid of people? What can a human do to you that is so scary?
I just can't stand being around other people. They all seem so normal and have perfect lives. It just depresses me that I'll probably be unemployed my whole life until I probably die of alcohol poisoning.
I just can't stand being around other people. They all seem so normal and have perfect lives. It just depresses me that I'll probably be unemployed my whole life until I probably die of alcohol poisoning.
You sound like you're suffering from pure envy. You don't believe you can have a "normal" life too? No one is normal or perfect. The reason they seem that way to you is because they are out and about enjoying their lives. They have that right and you do too! And if you truly believe that you will be unemployed your whole life until you die of alcohol poisoning, it can happen.
I just can't stand being around other people. They all seem so normal and have perfect lives. It just depresses me that I'll probably be unemployed my whole life until I probably die of alcohol poisoning.
You sound like you're suffering from pure envy. You don't believe you can have a "normal" life too? No one is normal or perfect. The reason they seem that way to you is because they are out and about enjoying their lives. They have that right and you do too! And if you truly believe that you will be unemployed your whole life until you die of alcohol poisoning, it can happen. As the Bible says, life and death lies in the power of the tongue. So be careful what you wish for.
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