How do people make big groups of friends?

[NamiraWilhelm]

Unfortunately we just have to keep trying until we find people we click with :/ I have very, very few friends and I'm trying my damnedest to make more... I've 5 months I've made one acquaintance! That's progress, sort of.

 

[Oizys]

Alcohol gives the illusion of friendship. From my mid teens to about 20, 21, I had a vast number of acquaintances I managed to acquire while drunk. Two drunks can easily be best friends for a night and have absolutely nothing to say the next morning, or ever, when sober.

There were a lot of people on my contacts list I could call up if I wanted to go out, people I'd never seen outside a club setting, unless you count gearing up to enter a club setting. The ones I thought were my real friends joined the other acquaintances and buggered off when I quit drinking.

I guess I have one friend now, but I'm agoraphobic and his social/work life is always so busy I rarely see him online, so he kinda doesn't feel like a friend. There was somebody else I considered a friend once too, but she got a girlfriend and I haven't seen her online, much less spoken to her in about 6 months or more. Nobody can be so busy that they can't take 2 minutes to send a quick hello by email, right?

Anyway, if you want your own large group of ''friends'', from personal experience, drinking is how that happens. Honestly though, I'd rather have one friend than a bunch of people who leave at the first sign of trouble.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I used to have a group of friends. How it happened was I made one friend and then she introduced me to the others and they just kind of accepted me, but since I stopped seeing them for awhile I'm not part of it anymore. Sometimes it takes that one person though. Also a group of ppl with a common interest. For instance if everyone on social phobia world lived close together we would be our own group of friends. Sometimes people are just born into having friends like having a nice big family and then you wouldn't have to worry about not having enough people attend your wedding for an example. You could just be like oh invite family... because we're family I don't need another reason. Some people are just good at making friends too. I don't have one, but I can see how it's done.

 

[pavnaxtion]

Lol you are funny. I think people who party tend to become friends with huge groups of people and this just builds and builds for them. I don't think they really could answer too many questions about these people if asked and a lot of times they lack true intimacy in their lives. Then think about activities and things you meet a bunch of people through that. Basically everything we avoid.