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coldhart

coldhart

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hello there im new here!, im looking advice, opinion and suggestion regarding my peculiar and awkward attitude, so i joined here in this forum:bigsmile:.. im having trouble with myself dealing with people,,

i mean talking with them, i go blank and i cannot utter words. i dont know why,, i just get freeze and become silent for eternity.., even my friends tell me im too silent and never quite talk a a lot. i think it bothers them. i find myself happy being alone and doing absurd ways like solving math problems over and over again.. until i figure it out and until i become satisfied..

a friend of mine tell me im autistic.. but i dont know,, if i am..
 
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ImNotMyIllness

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Welcome to the forum!! :)

Only a doctor can make a diagnosis if you're autistic. You may have Aspergers or (like the rest of us) you just suffer from Social Anxiety.

Anyway, lots of nice people here. You'll learn a lot and make nice friends.
 
coldhart

coldhart

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ImNotMyIllness said:
Welcome to the forum!! :)

Only a doctor can make a diagnosis if you're autistic. You may have Aspergers or (like the rest of us) you just suffer from Social Anxiety.

Anyway, lots of nice people here. You'll learn a lot and make nice friends.
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yeah i hate going to a doctor, it scares me.. i guess i have some form of social anxiety.. i hope its not too bad..
 
theslowesthand

theslowesthand

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Okay, now that the greetings are all done with (lol)...

coldhart said:
i mean talking with them, i go blank and i cannot utter words. i dont know why,, i just get freeze and become silent for eternity.., even my friends tell me im too silent and never quite talk a a lot. i think it bothers them
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Yes, i think it does bother most normal, sociable people .. just like silence & being alone bothers them; they dislike silence full-stop. I used to be like this at your age. i just simply never had anything to say to people. Maybe as i lacked being "interested" in the things most normal people were (you know - gossip, other people, small-talk, socialising, women/sex, foul language, and all those other "common" interests). I too was told that i was too quiet, don't talk enough - by my peers, and teachers. And they all regarded it as a "problem", and that i was therefore inferior (as if they didn't have any problems at all, lol). It isn't necessarily a problem .. it might just be a character trait, or part of a "disorder" such as aspergers or autism (again, the term "disorder" implies that it is a "problem" that can/should be resolved; maybe it is troublesome, but it might not be curable, so :. possibly shouldn't be called a "disorder"??).

coldhart said:
i find myself happy being alone and doing absurd ways like solving math problems over and over again.. until i figure it out and until i become satisfied..
a friend of mine tell me im autistic.. but i dont know,, if i am..
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I spent almost all of childhood/teenhood "happily alone and doing absurd little things" (such as solving difficult math problems, working out a plan of how to rearrange things in a drawer, analysing a mental concept or problem to-death).
I suspect is it something in the "autism spectrum". And also either OCD or OCPD (which i've always had). They seem to go hand-in-hand.
 
CaptainArgh

CaptainArgh

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Queue me up as a mathematic over-acheiver. I took it so far I qualified as a Civil Engineer. I dont know if there is anything to it other than the practice we did as a way of avoiding people, and natural talent.

I go completely blank when not talking about "safe" topics (banalnity, and if i get to know people perhaps a hint of personality, until such times as things go well and I hand grenade it to push them back away again).

Im at my worst when being confronted by people when I am being hyper-avoidant. I really struggle with the concept that my avoidance hurts others by pushing them away. I tell myself that its their fault for threatening me and that I dont have a choice but to defend myself in silence. What bakes my goat is that I used to be a communicative person at times, capable of deeper relationships but I struggle for any form of intimacy at all now.
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Edit: sorry dude, hope I didnt crash your thread.
 
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