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idontknow.

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can you tell me if i have social anxiety??

i'm kinda confused. keep second-guessing myself.


please tell me if i have it, and if so how severe?

i'm sorry if you hate me, i feel like most people do. and sorry if it's boring or stupid or long

i hate going out. i only go out for school and for church and places my mom occasionally makes me go to. i used to ride my bike for exercise, but i kept getting into near-car accidents EVERY TIME i rode.. haha. just the cars that went by made me way too confused and sweaty. besides the streets i spent some time riding in the park.... very scary sometimes. huge open space.... when i got scared it was hell, because there was nowhere you could turn. i used to go to this secluded place with swings and cried, but ALWAYS worried that the people in their houses were looking at me

school sucks. hallways suck. everyone hates you. lots of times you can't breathe. just blehhhhhhhhhh. classrooms suck as well. just sitting there makes me panic sometimes

being around people anywhere is hard i guess. either i'm sweating, not breathing, or thinking all of these crazy thoughts i don't realize i'm thinking, i am unconsciously causing myself pain to distract myself, or a combination of these, or sometimes i feel relatively okay. still thoughts of inferiority and judgment, but those are always there


I HATE PEOPLE. no i love them. i want to be with them really bad. but i just can't. it's too scary. i hold back on EVERYTHING in life. my life basically consists of nothing, because of these fears.

every moment is spent in fear. it feels like i'm surviving. like every step i take down the hallway, every moment: fear. that is it

ahh

please tell me how bad this is
 
BlueDays

BlueDays

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Hello idontknow:) Welcome to SPW:)

Have you seen a doctor about your problems? Only a doctor can properly diagnose social anxiety for certain. I hope reading people's similar experiences here can help you.:)
 
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idontknow.

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i know a doctor diagnosis would be preferable, but i can't see one right now. i was just hoping to ease my paranoia a bit, i keep keep asking myself this and not knowing what to think

it would be great to get some opinions
 
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Jodie-Tyler

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Yeah it's obvious you have some form of social phobia. However, to have a phobia it must stop you from doing the things you like or everyday things. Eg, become to scared to go to school, or too afraid to pop to the shops. Take your cycling for example, if going out on your bike becomes to scary that you dont do it, you have SP. If its makes you scared but you still do it, its more likely to be Social Anxiety. I think that deffinition is correct.


It sounds like you're SP is just starting but that doesnt mean it's acute. Being scared of school I can totally relate to, in the end I just didn't go.
If you avoid the situation that scare you the most SP will take over your life. Of course if you had the will power to face the scary sittuations you would.
That's thing about SP, once you get it, it's sooo hard to get rid of it.

Long story short, yes you do have SP, and on a scale of 1-10, 5.
Seek counsaling (cant be botherd to look up correct spelling)/ theapy, try and work through it now before it becomes umbearable.
All the best. Jodie x
 
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Feathers

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Hey Idontknow! :) Welcome to the site!

It sounds like some social anxiety/phobia, it's difficult to say, how much... or if there are also any other problems...

Like others said, read some articles about SP and SA.. If you can get some books from the library, I recommend The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr David Burns or some other books more specifically for SA or SR.. (gives basics of CBT) There is a 'Step by Step' anti-SA online program too.. you can google "Overcoming Social Anxiety: Step by Step"..

I seriously doubt that everyone hates you - have you asked them, did they tell you so? Probably you are just imagining things and may have bad social skills or maybe no one in your family taught you how to make friends.. you can learn more effective social skills and effective communication etc!

These are good books: Meeting People Is Fun by Phyllis Shaw or How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie. They really helped me when I was younger! Most people don't think about you at all, they worry about their own problems!! (And what others think of them!) Check your library...

If you still have troubles after reading those books, or can't find them, look for other books/programs in your library/online and/or look for a counsellor.. If you can't go to one right now, read the articles and books first, and maybe it will be easier to find some help later, if needed at all..
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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Welcome idontknow! :) We don't hate you and we're not going to hate you, so don't worry. To answer your question, it does sound like you have SA, but it's hard to tell how severe it is.
 
Snowdrop

Snowdrop

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idontknow. said:
can you tell me if i have social anxiety??

i'm kinda confused. keep second-guessing myself.


please tell me if i have it, and if so how severe?

i'm sorry if you hate me, i feel like most people do. and sorry if it's boring or stupid or long

i hate going out. i only go out for school and for church and places my mom occasionally makes me go to. i used to ride my bike for exercise, but i kept getting into near-car accidents EVERY TIME i rode.. haha. just the cars that went by made me way too confused and sweaty. besides the streets i spent some time riding in the park.... very scary sometimes. huge open space.... when i got scared it was hell, because there was nowhere you could turn. i used to go to this secluded place with swings and cried, but ALWAYS worried that the people in their houses were looking at me

school sucks. hallways suck. everyone hates you. lots of times you can't breathe. just blehhhhhhhhhh. classrooms suck as well. just sitting there makes me panic sometimes

being around people anywhere is hard i guess. either i'm sweating, not breathing, or thinking all of these crazy thoughts i don't realize i'm thinking, i am unconsciously causing myself pain to distract myself, or a combination of these, or sometimes i feel relatively okay. still thoughts of inferiority and judgment, but those are always there


I HATE PEOPLE. no i love them. i want to be with them really bad. but i just can't. it's too scary. i hold back on EVERYTHING in life. my life basically consists of nothing, because of these fears.

every moment is spent in fear. it feels like i'm surviving. like every step i take down the hallway, every moment: fear. that is it

ahh

please tell me how bad this is
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Hey idontknow. Welcome :)
Sorry to hear you're going through this.. We don't hate you, and it's not boring, or stupid or long. I think I'm going through a similar situation as yourself. It does sound a bit like depression that you have, and if you feel so uncomfortable around people then I do think you have SA. The conflict you described certainly points to it. Have you tried talking to anyone about it? I know it's cliche :rolleyes: but it's best if you don't keep your feelings to yourself.
Anyway I hope you'll find yourself at home here because it's a great way to find help. everyone is so lovely and going through very similar situations.
Good luck :)
 
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