Heirachy of your needs

[WeirdyMcGee]

Physical safety and security - no
financial security - no
friendship - no
the attention of others - no
Being listened too - no
Guidance - yes
respect - yes? towards me? sometimes.
validation - no
expressing your feelings - no
sense of belonging - no
nurturing - no
physically touching and being touched - no
intimacy - no
sexual expression - no
loyalty and trust - no
a sense of accomplishment - no
a sense of progress toward goals - no
feeling competent or masterful in some area - yes? 90% of the time, no.
make a contribution - no
fun and play - no
sense of freedom and independence - yes/ no... probably no most of the time.
creativity - yes
unconditional love - yes


And I agree with coyote's last point.
Though I feel this way about my 'needs', someone else in the same position may feel differently.
Alternately-- I would probably feel far different about my living situation were I not suffering from depression.
A slight step up would probably do alot of good, even without being healthy in any other way/ with still being anxious and agoraphobic.

It's probably good for us all to take a look at our needs and question which we really do have and which we only feel we do not and figure out ways to feel fulfilled.

 

[BlackPuma]

I definitely belong in the Self-Actualization and Belonging group of people (if crossovers are possible).

Oh, and since you asked.

1. Physical safety and security.
3. Friendship.
7. Respect.
13. Intimacy.
14. Sexual expression (with the person I'm intimate with, obviously. ;D)
18. Feeling competent or masterful in some areas.
20. Fun and play
21. Sense of freedom and independence
22. Creativity
23. Unconditional love
42. Pizza.

 

[Kiwong]

That is very true, and its something that I struggle with - however I believe that some people don't matter to anyone, because most of us are wrapped up in our own worlds - and the people who feel like they don't matter is mostly people who no one wants to deal with. Seeing as mattering matters - I often wonder, why some people cant get themselves of the rut that they are in.

Getting out of the rut for me, involves pushing through an imaginary line of pain and doubt, knowing that this will always be extremely difficult, but also knowing if I make the effort, that is where I find happiness. For me this is a ongoing battle, and often I despair and think I will inevitably lose. but lately on some wonderful days I am winning.

I think if you are honest, work hard, open up and get involved in groups of like-minded people you will find people who care. But you have to reach out in this pragmatic world. There are always going to be those critics that test your strength.

being honest and Opening up. I told everyone I suffer from anxiety, and I was surprised at the the number of people cared, who offered support, who were even inspired by my honesty.

getting involved. I've got involved in masters sport and have made friends through that. I'm in a club, I go in big fun runs.

Although all of the above scares the crap out of me that is where I have had the most success

 

[psych]

I'd say I've achieved the bottom two parts of the pyramid. Am still working on the rest. As I've aged I've felt held back, & fallen behind my peers. :: It's not a good feeling on ye olde ego.

Out of all those questions I answered yes to about 6 of them. However, there were periods of my adult life when I would've answered yes to more of the intimacy/belonging/esteem questions.

 

[KiaKaha]

I think there is a threshold - a minimum requirement needed to fulfill all the needs based on the pyramid to lead a healthy and dignified life. You cant have self esteem and confidence without a sense of belonging and acceptance first.
Although it is all relative - the needs of one may be different from the needs of others - but in saying that there is still *a* need - a requirement that must be gained from others.

One must push the boundaries and have the desire to help themselves - but only when they have the belief of strength and support of feeling like they actually matter first.

 

[vj288]

Physical safety and security Yes
financial security No
friendship Somewhat
the attention of others Somewhat
Being listened too No
Guidance Not at all
respect No
validation No
expressing your feelings Not at all
sense of belonging no
nurturing No
physically touching and being touched No
intimacy No
sexual expression No
loyalty and trust Somewhat
a sense of acomplishment Not Really
a sense of progress toward goals Somewhat
feeling competent or mastergul in some area No
make a contribution No
fun and play No
sense of freedom and independence No
creativity No
unconditional love No