have your parents got sa?

[shamrock_girl]

hi i'm new here and was just wondering how many of your parents suffer with sa. my parents are really outgoing and can talk to anyone and i cant understand where i got it from! i'm only guessing now but maybe thats why i never had to say anything they did all the talking for me and it just grew from there.

 

[LittleBird]

Same here...

 

[shamrock_girl]

phew! it's just i saw somewhere it can be genetic. yeah can u imagine if ur parents didn't talk much either awkward!

 

[shamrock_girl]

That's a good question, and I think that there might be strong possibility that my parents may have SA as well. If they do then they've learned to cope with it and be productive.

have u ever talked with them about it?

 

[Ignace]

Got it from my mum definitely, I swear on my head. My dad's way too social, and my mum ... is like me. She sometimes says she's exactely like me, but .. .JHNKHFLKSLMJSDMKL

 

[shamrock_girl]

My father had symptoms of social anxiety when he was younger. He was able to overcome it though. This gives me a bit of hope, but I know I’m different from him personality wise, and my social anxiety isn’t exactly as his was, but even so…it makes me think I might be able to do better than just endure.

My mother has generalized anxiety disorder, very similar to mine (in fact, I learned that it goes back to my great grandmother,even the physical symptoms I get are similar to theirs).

I think I got the bad genes from both sides that together with circumstances unfolded into my conditions.

there is some good in this in the fact that u can see where it comes from and u can talk to someone about it about how u feel and what symptoms u have i told my mother the other day i think i have sa and she looked at me like i had 2 heads i also think my sister has it cos she has similar shyness to me although if u know her she is very loud!

 

[stephen]

I don't know, both my parents are pretty reserved. I couldn't say if they have SA though. My dad spent a lot of his home time alone with his tropical fish so he definitely had that loner thing going.

 

[shamrock_girl]

I don't know, both my parents are pretty reserved. I couldn't say if they have SA though. My dad spent a lot of his home time alone with his tropical fish so he definitely had that loner thing going.

do they know about ur sa?

 

[Tmeister]

I don't think they have SA to be honest... so i don't know where i get my SA from...

 

[SilentRain]

hi i'm new here and was just wondering how many of your parents suffer with sa. my parents are really outgoing and can talk to anyone and i cant understand where i got it from! i'm only guessing now but maybe thats why i never had to say anything they did all the talking for me and it just grew from there.

Yep this is me too. My folks won't shut up while I can't even say hi to a person without feeling faint. My mom can go to the store and have a full conversation with over 20 people, buy groceries and get a couple of phone numbers for new possible hang out buddies. I don't know how she does it. I go to the store and avoid everyone. I'll go to the U-scan machine to avoid talking to a cashier. Whenever she's around me she just talks for me. Even now when I'm an adult.

 

[shamrock_girl]

Yep this is me too. My folks won't shut up while I can't even say hi to a person without feeling faint. My mom can go to the store and have a full conversation with over 20 people, buy groceries and get a couple of phone numbers for new possible hang out buddies. I don't know how she does it. I go to the store and avoid everyone. I'll go to the U-scan machine to avoid talking to a cashier. Whenever she's around me she just talks for me. Even now when I'm an adult.

exactly and this makes me feel worse because i feel like the person is looking at me like i'm weird or something because i'm not joining in the conversation.

 

[bigrob]

My mom is a depressive.

My dad says he doesn't like people very much either.

One of my sister's has anxiety issues.

I have an uncle (dad's brother) that is a recluse.

My dad had a aunt that spent the last 12 years of her life without leaving the house.

At this point now that I know how much the family has been effected by this, I am EXTREMELY bitter that nothing was done to treat me even though a teacher pointed out I was "different" when I was 10 years old.

 

[Lionheart]

Got it from my mum definitely, I swear on my head. My dad's way too social, and my mum ... is like me. She sometimes says she's exactely like me, but .. .JHNKHFLKSLMJSDMKL

And i got it from my dad:/

 

[Hellhound]

Everyone in my family has issues, I probably got something from them. But it wouldn't be as bad as it is now if it wasn't for the many years of abuse/neglect i've gone through and the failed therapies. I must thank society, my family and my school for screwing me up this way.

 

[32belly]

My mother has it. I can see it so clearly in her nown and I somehow adopted many of her behaviors.

 

[iason]

That's a good question, and I think that there might be strong possibility that my parents may have SA as well. If they do then they've learned to cope with it and be productive.

I'd have posted exactly the same words...
My parents, at least at my eyes, have always been "different" from other people... few friends, family life, tiny social life and so on...Yet they - especially my mother, my father has always been more closed - learned to cope with their shy and introvert nature very well. This indeed makes me keep hoping to live my life without feeling harmed by SA

 

[EscapeArtist]

My mom has SA, had it really bad, still does.

 

[stephen]

do they know about ur sa?

I don't think they were ever aware of the extent of my problems but I don't know how they could miss that I had problems socialising. I never really turned to them for support. Well I remember having a meltdown when I was about 15 and telling my mum how miserable I was and how I had no friends and couldn't talk to anyone but then I kind of remember shutting down and pretending it was nothing to worry about. I think I felt like she had no answers and I just had to figure it out myself. The more my self esteem plummeted the more I tended to just isolate myself and hide away in my room. I remember once just going out into the lounge to sit down and watch TV with my family and how alien that felt because I would spend so much time alone. Anyway I'm rambling...

 

[stephen]

I am a parent of two myself now and my four year old son reminds me a lot of myself. He is quite happy playing by himself. He will play with others if he is encouraged but doesn't really seek out company. It is really for his benefit that I have recently been seeing a psychologist to address my SA. I am so conscious of the fact that I am modeling behaviours that my children might pick up on.

 

[Orbital]

My dad has it, my mom not at all. We moved to Canada when I was young and my dad never really fit in here and ended up being reclusive in his workshop most of the time. My mom seems to make friends with complete strangers very easily.