Have anyone ever look at you like your weird while you talk to them?

popolala

popolala

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I seem to get this alot.. When i talk to them, their eyes twitch or they have this blank face and look at me like im weird while im talking...when that happens, i tend to freeze.. and i want to stop talking.. and has happened, i tend to freeze for 1 second..
but because i have to finish what im saying... i say it oddly..
so the next time i am talking to them, they look at me weirdly as usual..
i dont know what to do...::(:

I know you may think its all in my head.. but its not.. its true..
maybe it hasnt happened to u, thats why.. u wont understand.

I know the difference between a normal blank listening face, and a weird blank face... if u know what i mean..
 
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Beatrice

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popolala said:
I seem to get this alot.. When i talk to them, their eyes twitch or they have this blank face and look at me like im weird while im talking...when that happens, i tend to freeze.. and i want to stop talking.. and has happened, i tend to freeze for 1 second..
but because i have to finish what im saying... i say it oddly..
so the next time i am talking to them, they look at me weirdly as usual..
i dont know what to do...::(:
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Hmm, well, not to say it's all in your head, but... perhaps it's all in your head? What I mean is, maybe you're only perceiving it that way because you are afraid that is what they are doing, even before you talk to them. It's happened to me. But I may be wrong. Just a possibility.
 
Untamed88

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I get this too. I swear they think I am retarded or something. People start talking to me, I talk back and they get the 'weird blank face' and kind of cut the conversation short.
I hate that, when I freeze in conversation and then have to finish. My voice goes all mumbly. I just come away feeling like a complete waste of space.
 
dean01

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i had this problem and am inclined to agree with betrice, its all in the mind.
i used to think my friends used to look at me like i was weird, it was a bit like they new i had problems. ive now told my friends about my sa and can safely say they knew nothing and wer'nt looking at me like im weird.
at the time i was certain they were thou.
 
popolala

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dean sheppard said:
i had this problem and am inclined to agree with betrice, its all in the mind.
i used to think my friends used to look at me like i was weird, it was a bit like they new i had problems. ive now told my friends about my sa and can safely say they knew nothing and wer'nt looking at me like im weird.
at the time i was certain they were thou.
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maybe they were... people dont normally admit to things like this because its rude... its not really all in the head.. but if you want to believe that, its up to u..

because you know if someone or something is genuine or not..
but if you wish to believe its not, then thats fine.

eyes dont lie.
 
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NewtoThis

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I always just figured they do that because they're bored with what I'm saying or busy thinking about something else. I try to either end what I'm saying or let them talk. Sometimes they try to leave right away or they go on about themselves for a while (I'm fine with listening).

Every once and a while they do want me to continue talking, and that's when I think it's in my head, like my aversion to attention is making me so I don't want to talk to people. Eh. Hope that helps.
 
popolala

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I think its rude how when someone dont want to talk to me, they just walk off after a few words... they dont say im going now.. or let me knw they busy etc.. just walk off
 
popolala

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Darryl said:
Unless that person has Avoidance:)
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erm, everyone has avoidance.. we avoid things for a reason.. normally bad too.
i wont class that as an illness so therefore it means nothing, because thats silly.

people have SA for a reason too.. its not something we have for life..
you just have to do something about it.. and really set your heart to change.
 
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Patrick26

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Most of the time they don't even when i stutter. As far as i know only 1 person does, but he does that to everyone, nobody likes him anyway.
 
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I get the same thing from certain types of people, it's very off-putting!
 
LazyHermitCrab

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There was someone who waved at me when i was talking because i wasn't giving eye contact and looked at me like i had a big problem lol
 
popolala

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Patrick26 said:
Most of the time they don't even when i stutter. As far as i know only 1 person does, but he does that to everyone, nobody likes him anyway.
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Yeah, that person reminds me of someone i know too.. they look at people like they have problem, when they have problem themselves.

Normally people will look at others and look normal, because they kind people.. but knowing we have SA...

i hate how this guy who critize me thinks hes the only one out of the world who sees i have sa.. when obviously everyone can see that.. they just dont tell me, what i know myself. Its just wrong and rude. To point to someone and tell them that you have SA... i mean, a genuine person dont point.. they help build you up, without even telling you that, by doing stuff such as inviting you to have lunch etc...

I also have a friend who stutter, and shes the most likable person you will ever meet. Everyone loves/adores her.. because shes just easy going.. even though she stutter, shes a cool cool human overall. I admire her. She pretty confident, she just stutter in group presentation.
 
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Darryl

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popolala said:
erm, everyone has avoidance.. we avoid things for a reason.. normally bad too.
i wont class that as an illness so therefore it means nothing, because thats silly.

people have SA for a reason too.. its not something we have for life..
you just have to do something about it.. and really set your heart to change.
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Hi popolala,

Everybody has avoidance:confused:... only 1-2.5% of the total population have Avoidance Personality disorder.;

My strength is that I love having Avoidance, which I guess is lucky because I will have it for the rest of my life unlike SA.
 
kerunia

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You could just film yourslef/do a video journaling- to improve your conversation skills. Maybe your talking too fast for the person to understand or too slow and they cant process it. Dont be offended by people it will just worsen your SA take it as a challenge instead to improve.:) What do you think?;)
 
popolala

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Darryl said:
Hi popolala,

Everybody has avoidance:confused:... only 1-2.5% of the total population have Avoidance Personality disorder.;

My strength is that I love having Avoidance, which I guess is lucky because I will have it for the rest of my life unlike SA.
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erm, i so disagree with your figure...because that figure didn't included me or my family or anyone i know.. that has entered into a survey to say if they have avoidance disorder or not.. which is silly..

because everyone has avoidance .. same with having anger, humor, sadness and other emotions...

Im pretty sure you would avoid a pile of poo, if you see it on the pavement.. thats avoidance, almost 100% nation will avoid.. not 1-2.5%

If you dont believe your SA will go, it wont go.. it might not even go, but you can come out of your shell as much as you can.
I know a few people who used to have SA, extreme shyness in another word.. but when you talk to them online.. they are hyperactive, full of live..
and gradually, they actually came out of their shell, now they are confident inside and out. So i think its possible. Believe in yourself.

erm, im just thinking, if you love avoidance, then this is not a disorder you have. Its just something you choose to do. So therefore, its not some sort of avoidance disorder.
Also, the reason why you have SA, could be because you enjoy avoiding others.. therefore you are not interested in them .. so naturally you will not communicate well with them since you are not interested.. im just guessing.
 
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popolala

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coyote said:
^uhm, popolala....

perhaps you should learn more about Avoidant Personality Disorder - which is what Darryl is referring to

here's a start: Avoidant personality disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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I read it, its basically about avoiding situation, which some of us would do.
Also he said he loves his avoidance issue. So therefore, he isnt one of those people who avoid because of problem, its because he wants to.
thats actually anti-social. If its avoiding people.

Anyways, avoidance issue isnt clearly defined.. its a mixed of pychological issue as it was written.

Just because something is written, doesnt mean i agree. Sure, avoidance is an emotion, same with being sad.

SAD - as in sad.. not social anxiety disorder..

its seasonal affective disorder.. everyone in the whole nation has this .. at least 40% in them.

there are lots of disorder, long list.. its basically just a definition..

i dont mean to sound mean.. i agree there are people who are extreamly avoidance, but that may be because of the problem listed. but if they dont seek help and love avoiding others, then thats different.
 
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coyote

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^ so basically, we should all just "get over it?"

ok, cool

i guess we can all go home now and be happy
 
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