Going to try this again - RANDOM STUFF! READ IT HERE! GET IT WHILE IT'S HOT!

[Opaline]

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[dyingtolive]

wow !

 

[Phoenixx]

You're not planning on masking ALL your troubles from him the whole time, are you? Sure, I wouldn't tell the guy right away either, but I think he should know at least some of the things you deal with, eventually anyway. Then again I'm basically just saying what I would do if I was in your position. I don't think I could ever truly hide my SA and/or whatever other troubles I have from someone I was/planned to be romantically involved with.

Also, I don't think you should feel you have to fake "normalcy" with this. Just be your quiet self, there's nothing really wrong with that. If he truly likes you and wants you, he'll accept the fact that you're not as extroverted as he may have assumed, and that you really are just a quiet person.

Don't fret and see where it all goes. Good luck! I wish you both the best.

 

[MikeyC]

Basically, I feel inadequate. In more ways than one. It's nothing new, but I am worried about this relationship (just like my last one...).

Sometimes I wonder why he wants to be with me.

I often wonder, too, why he's chosen to keep pursuing me after all this time. Surely some other girl would have stolen his heart by now? A few people mentioned to me that perhaps it is just the chase - he wanted me and could never get me, and perhaps now that he has me he won't want me anymore. This is possible, but I asked him point blank if this was the case and he said no. And I choose to believe him. Because again, as I see it, I have nothing to lose...

From these, you're already questioning your worth in a relationship that hasn't even started yet. It's not a good starting point and I hope you don't constantly feel like you're not up to his level, because that's going to make you more upset and it could sabotage the relationship. You also wrote this:

He's liked me since we worked together at the job we first met at ... I rejected him before

I often wonder, too, why he's chosen to keep pursuing me after all this time. Surely some other girl would have stolen his heart by now?

So this indicates that he likes you and has liked you for a very long time, despite the distance between you. Once you meet up with him, I am positive you will visibly see his face light up and he will love you all over again.

Maybe he doesn't know about the depression or the other issues you've got. That's quite possible. However, if he likes you as much as that, it won't matter. He will work with you through them. Don't forget that he may have some issues of his own, too.

Also, if I can be perfectly blunt, you are really hot. So in actual fact I think he is the lucky one in this upcoming relationship! Have some fun with him and hopefully it'll grow into a meaningful, long-term relationship.

 

[coyote]

Avacado!!

 

[MikeyC]

Mikey - Firstly, thanks for the compliment, was not expecting that! haha. I am just going to try my best. My doubts are always in the back of my mind, but he's had plenty of times to see me in the past, my personality and my physical appearance and he still really likes me. I even told him about the one thing I really dislike about myself physically and he doesn't care, doesn't even see it as an issue. He likes me just as I am, and that alone is a big confidence boost, as well as incredibly sweet (I can't help but feel all fuzzy knowing that )

So there you go! I do understand the doubts, as I had/have the exact same problem, but he obviously really likes you and doesn't see your physical attribute that you hate as a problem - because it isn't. It's good that you feel all fuzzy knowing that! I wish the both of you really positive luck.

 

[Phoenixx]

Avacado!!

^ *thumbs up*

 

[Srijita52]

Its great that he likes you just the way you are. Even though you don't like something about yourself. physically, he doesn't see it that way. And I'm sure it isn't either, sometimes our own minds can be our worst enemies. Good luck to both of you.

 

[Srijita52]

Was feeling really down all day today. Gloomy weather, not much to do, not liking myself, anticipating the unpleasantness of work tomorrow.

I had a reaction completely out of proportion to the situation that elicited it. My mother and brother went to the store and before they left I asked them to please pick me up a snack cake that I would give them money for when they got back.

I was looking forward to it the whole time, because on days like this, as bad as it is, eating something exciting is often the highlight of my day. Not to mention, I was hungry because we don't have much in the house besides canned goods and crackers and a couple other things.

I heard them coming up the steps to our door, and I was really looking forward to eating that cake.

They came inside, and I asked my brother for the snack.

He forgot it.

I was pissed off and so disappointed I started crying.

Yes, I realize how ridiculous that is, but I guess when you're in those gloomy moods the littlest things can set you off (I don't think it was about the cake so much, at least I hope not, haha), and I was pretty hungry and that always puts me in a bad mood, I get really pissy and emotional. Plus it's a... certain time of the month, heh.

Anyway. I'm still disappointed I don't have it, and I'm still hungry. I really want something sweet and we don't have anything.

At least we're having chicken soup for dinner.

I know how it feels specially when its something you were really looking forward to. I'd be very upset as well. I'm sorry.

 

[MikeyC]

I don't know what to say but I'm sorry you're feeling so low, Tally. :: If you want to chat to someone I'm more than willing to listen.

 

[MikeyC]

Thank you I really do appreciate it. One of these days I just might take you up on that offer

You're more than welcome to. I hate to see you so upset.