Give A Bully Another Million Chance?


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So, my brother has selective mutism, bullies me sometimes (much more violent in the past though), and doesn't talk to me verbally. Sometimes, he orders me to do things that I refuse to do. In short, he acts like king of the house. He did admit to me several times that he doesn't care what I think and has no regard for my feelings.

Anyway, his behavior has been weird lately. Sometimes, he would ask me whether I want to watch a video on Youtube or exercise with him. I usually decline because I don't want anything to do with him. If I get too close to him, I can get hurt (emotionally, mentally, maybe physically). and, I don't want to get hurt again. I don't know if he's trying to bond with me??!? This cycle has repeat itself for almost my whole life (22 years or so): I be nice to him, I do fun things with him, then he bullies me and hurts me, orders me to do things for him, then sometimes he would apologize and I would forgive and be nice to him, etc etc. The cycle seems endless, until recently when I try to stay away from him as much as possible. Because I don't want to be emotionally invested in a relationship that is destructive.

So, what do you think? Should I give him another millionth chance?


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Some of his frustration from his mutism probably causes some off the problmes but not all. I mean We can;t really tell you if you should or shoulden;t because we are not in that situation and see it first hand. I know that I went through the same kind of bullying but from my father, who we all suspected had bi-polar disorder. Sometimes I regret giving him chance after chance and then sometimes I was glad I did. There may also be a underlining problme besides his mutism for the reason he acts out like he dose. I wish I could give yo a defenitive answer or better help you out..